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Partner (female) wears sexy clothes to work.
I can't find anything on the forum regarding this subject, but would be interested to hear any considered views, or be guided to previous posts and information, as it is causing me a degree of consternation.
I didn't like to have to mention this to her, as it makes me look insecure, which risks being unattractive in a man. I have done so, however. Being the survivor of infidelity in past relationships, I am more insecure in relationships than I used to be.
She has told me that she does not have any other man in mind and I believe her completely. Nevertheless, I feel uncomfortable.
I can provide more information, if needed, but would prefer, if possible, the greater anonymity provided by brevity.
Thanks for reading my post.
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Partner (female) wears sexy clothes to work.
I can't find anything on the forum regarding this subject, but would be interested to hear any considered views, or be guided to previous posts and information, as it is causing me a degree of consternation.
I didn't like to have to mention this to her, as it makes me look insecure, which risks being unattractive in a man. I have done so, however. Being the survivor of infidelity in past relationships, I am more insecure in relationships than I used to be.
She has told me that she does not have any other man in mind and I believe her completely. Nevertheless, I feel uncomfortable.
I can provide more information, if needed, but would prefer, if possible, the greater anonymity provided by brevity.
Thanks for reading my post. Welcome to MB. Are you married?
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Well, if you were married, I would say that the two of you are agreeing to a relationship where you give each other extraordinary care. A level of care where you wouldn't do anything if the other is reluctant about it.
That would be a true partnership, but most people don't mean that kind of relationship when they say "partner." They mean not married. If that's the case, I would say you don't have that level of commitment with each other.
Are you married? Do you have any children?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Thank you for the replies.
No, we are not married.
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I should also have said that we don't have any children together.
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Have you read Dr. Harleys Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders Have you read any of Dr. Harley's material on dating and how to find the perfect spouse?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Thanks, Brainhurts.
I'lll take a look, in case there might be useful information there, though I am committed to my partner and definitely wish to remain so.
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BrainHurts.
I've just noticed that you asked if we'd read users, Renters and Freeloaders. Yes, I've read the book and she's read the website info on it. Sorry, I'd previously seen only your second question.
We're both very familiar with the Marriage Builders philosophy and have adopted it in full for our relationship. I'm hoping that radical honesty and joint enthusiastic agreement will help us to get through the questions over wearing sexy clothing to work and we are working on it currently with those policies in mind. If it's a subject previously covered on the forum though, I'd be interested to see how others have coped with it.
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We're both very familiar with the Marriage Builders philosophy and have adopted it in full for our relationship. Why aren't you married?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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