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Feel free to recommend this site to the OM's BW. We will tell her to report this to the ethics board yesterday.
I am very happy to hear she had the kahunas to expose this to everyone else as soon as she found out. Good for her.
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We separated after our 4th dday, she basically left, said to figure things out, all complete lies, everything she said was and still is either a lie or partial truth. Yes all three daughters know and have known since the beginning. I also told the OM's wife that I'd known for almost a year. She wasn't happy but understood. You are fortunate she didn't slap you for doing that to her. I would not have understood if you did that to me. Glad she finally found out. Makes me cringe and feel sick to hear that a BS cruelly kept the affair a secret for their WS at the pain and suffering of another BS. Ugs. I would not have understood either. I sure hope you apologized profusely.
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We separated after our 4th dday, she basically left, said to figure things out, all complete lies, everything she said was and still is either a lie or partial truth. Yes all three daughters know and have known since the beginning. I also told the OM's wife that I'd known for almost a year. She wasn't happy but understood. You are fortunate she didn't slap you for doing that to her. I would not have understood if you did that to me. Glad she finally found out. Makes me cringe and feel sick to hear that a BS cruelly kept the affair a secret for their WS at the pain and suffering of another BS. Ugs. I would not have understood either. I sure hope you apologized profusely. "I knew that your house was on fire, but it was three in the morning and I thought you might get upset with me if I woke you up."
me-65 wife-61 married for 40 years DS - 38, autistic, lives at home DD - 37, married and on her own DS - 32, still living with us
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Ok, I get your point, I did apologize profusely, this was not her first time dealing with infedelity, and I will take your advice and use it when you give it, if your still willing... She wasn't upset with me and was interested in the mb website, so I sent her the link, I hope she looks at it seriously. So, now what? We didn't go to plan b, I think we might have a chance of busting this up this time, we have both families involved and the whole town and church watching. The OM's wife is on board with me and has been checking in with via text to give encouragement and see how things are going. Is keeping in contact with her strange or is it an appropriate way of snooping? A no contact text was sent by the OM, my wife is still moved out, but I'm finally seeing some signs of wanting to come home, so how do I proceed?
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Ok, I get your point, I did apologize profusely, this was not her first time dealing with infedelity, and I will take your advice and use it when you give it, if your still willing... She wasn't upset with me and was interested in the mb website, so I sent her the link, I hope she looks at it seriously. So, now what? We didn't go to plan b, I think we might have a chance of busting this up this time, we have both families involved and the whole town and church watching. The OM's wife is on board with me and has been checking in with via text to give encouragement and see how things are going. Is keeping in contact with her strange or is it an appropriate way of snooping? A no contact text was sent by the OM, my wife is still moved out, but I'm finally seeing some signs of wanting to come home, so how do I proceed? What signs have you seen? Has she directly said that she wants to go home?
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No she hasn't said it that way yet, but, when I told her that she couldn't come home, she said "why not?" She has also finally started to see that real damage that this has done to our girls, and commented that they really needed their mom back home, these are things that she hasn't even mentioned until now. Do I try to get her back in our home to fight this, or keep her out? Putting my needs and feelings aside, do I make sure it's for the absolute right reason or take her back simply to get started on recovery?
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You're in the online programme, aren't you? Have you told your coach and Dr Harley about the latest developments? What do they say? Did you ever talk to your coach about this?
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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