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Originally Posted by Lucky12
This is what I've found on Verizon.

Step 4: Click Text Status and now you can check your text messages in the web UI. Keep in mind that the messages are stored for only 5 days.


Test everything before you put it on Wayward's phone. You absolutely to not want to show your hand. So set this service up on your own phone first. Make sure there are no alerts and that you can see what you need to see. 5 days is fine.

For some reason Waywards are addicted to text messages. Personally I think they are appalling but to each his own!


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Yes I saw that too, I can't find text status. But will keep looking. It seems like that would be fast and easy.


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lol I tried it on mine and I got 3 auto messages on my phone letting me know of this activity.

So If I do it on H's phone he will get the same 3 messages and I'm outted.


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Here's Verizon's answer

1. Re: How do I view texts online???

Text message content and numbers are not accessible through My Verizon or any Verizon system really. The text message times and numbers are can't be 'given out' as pursuant to Customer Privacy and Customer Proprietary Network Information. Theres a special department that requires legal authority to access the contentof these text messages.


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The 2 most suspicious texts were from her phone at 5:59 AM yesterday and 4:31 AM today. I don't think she was inviting him to breakfast.

Lots of others back and forth yesterday afternoon.

I am going to call for an MB phone appointment tomorrow. I think I can play it cool enough until I can get in.

Except to say I didn't play it cool enough last time. So will be real maturity on my part including self control and great acting skills.


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Originally Posted by Lucky12
The 2 most suspicious texts were from her phone at 5:59 AM yesterday and 4:31 AM today. I don't think she was inviting him to breakfast.

Lots of others back and forth yesterday afternoon.

I am going to call for an MB phone appointment tomorrow. I think I can play it cool enough until I can get in.

Except to say I didn't play it cool enough last time. So will be real maturity on my part including self control and great acting skills.

Why not follow MB FIRST and save coaching for recovery? You should be focused on snooping and getting the facts first. Counseling is not going to help until you know what you are dealing with.


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Can you get your hands on his phone and read his texts?


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Hi ML, I have been reading the forums practically non-stop since March. I read wifedivorcing start to finish for example.

MB first is what I've been preparing myself for.

I will get a hold of his phone. I won't be sleeping well for awhile so should get a chance.

Oddly, I charge my phone and leave it in my office - don't want it to wake me up. However H's phone is attached usually very close to him even in the bathroom.


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Originally Posted by Lucky12
Hi ML, I have been reading the forums practically non-stop since March. I read wifedivorcing start to finish for example.

MB first is what I've been preparing myself for.

I will get a hold of his phone. I won't be sleeping well for awhile so should get a chance.

Oddly, I charge my phone and leave it in my office - don't want it to wake me up. However H's phone is attached usually very close to him even in the bathroom.


Maybe you can snag it and read his texts. Do you know his password? Is it an iphone and do you know his itunes password?


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Yes, I have both his password and his itunes password.


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Can you install spyware tonight frmo webwatcher? https://webwatcher.com/ They have spyware you can install for iphones and androids.

Secondly, if you have his itunes password, you can download his entire text history into itunes.


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cSue--you were one of my favorite people back in the day. Have you decided firmly exactly what you want to accomplish with your snooping and exposure. Do you want him back, even if it means being the hall monitor for the rest of his life? I'm sorry you're stuck back on the merry-go-round, but there's nothing that says you have to ride it till the end of the line. I hopd you set yourself some definite goals and stick with attaining them. I would love to see you happy again.

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ML

Not sure how much time I have tonight before he gets here, but I can do this. What a lovely app. It can be done remotely.

I just checked and I can enter his id and pass. I did it from his computer since he's not here yet and made sure it didn't send him an email.

Hopefully it didn't send him a text either. But I have a story if it does. I'll tell him I wanted to surprise him with new music.

I also checked what webwatcher suggested to make sure the account setting is setup for icloud storage, and it is.

Would be so wonderful if it can capture the texts from yesterday and today. I really appreciate you sending this to me ML.

Also if there are other threads like wifedivoring you can send my way I would appreciate it. I read the entire "Axe" thread as well.

tl...there aren't words. You are so kind.

Here's what I need; peace of mind which to me means no matter what, I want the truth. If this is all true, he's a serial cheater and I can't change that, only he can. And I'm not sure about that.

While reading MB since March, I've also been planning some what if's? future plans.

So relieved there's something like webwatcher. I will buy and install it tomorrow. I'm conflicted about what cc to use.
To be totally sure I won't be busted I need to get a whatever you call it card you buy at a store and load it lol. I have a business card that I manage and he rarely sees, but there is a risk since it's a business account. So can get new throw-away card tomorrow.

I am grateful for the support. I don't feel so alone. I felt panicked earlier, in a real cold sweat. Now I feel hope that I will get to the bottom of this.


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Have you read this and listened to the radio clips in here? Serial Cheaters


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When you get your evidence are you ready for exposure? Do you know who the OW/s are?


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BH, I need to go back and read ML's link on exposure on what to do first, but I believe I am. I will need to make some plans first.

I got H's phone just now. The times don't match up. He was two time zones away, so don't know if the Verizon log reports the time zone he was in or the time zone we live in.

Nothing at all interesting in the texts. I hope webwatcher gives me what I need to see. Tomorrow I will match up some texts he sent me with what the Verizon log shows, then I'll know.


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Bh, I forgot to answer your question. Yes I know who the person is who sent the texts. I paid online to get the information for her phone number. Thanks for the link to serial cheaters.


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Originally Posted by Lucky12
Bh, I forgot to answer your question. Yes I know who the person is who sent the texts. I paid online to get the information for her phone number. Thanks for the link to serial cheaters.
Is she married? Did you go to her Facebook page and save a list of her contacts for exposure.

Did you get the spyware on his phone?


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Hit a snag. As I was installing ww it said it needed a 2 party verification, which means I need H's phone in hand when I register.

I think he knows I had his phone the other night. It was so dark when I unplugged it from the charger I had to feel how/where he had it so that I could return it exactly as I found it as best I could.

I watched the next morning when he got up. Per his normal routine, he went to get his iphone and he stopped and paused as he looked at it. Ugh, I thought busted.

He never said anything to me, but last night he put it in a slightly different place - closer to him.

Didn't bother me because I knew I would be installing ww today. Now this!!! It's going to take a lot of luck for me to get my hands on it now. And when I do I need to be ready to do the 2 party verification.

Check his text log today, and she texted him yesterday around 3:00 PM. He didn't reply.

No sign of her on his cell phone log, just his text log. No sign of emails either.





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