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How to Meet EN's when WS Won't Tell you what they are??
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I'm having such a rough time of it. My H has been home for 2 months. He will NOT fill out the EN's questionaire. He does not want to know what my EN's are. I understand that there's a period of time when the WS maybe doesn't want to work on things, and the BS does more of the work. What if the WS doesn't want to talk about things, doesn't want to do anything other than go to work, come home and watch TV. How do I make love deposits with that kind of attitude??
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Hi,<P>You know your h. You should know his likes and dislikes, and some of these hurt you, but you have to face them and work on them. So do lots of the likes and keep away from the dislikes. Hard, I know, but you can surely guess a lot of them.<P>Look for signs. Obviously trying to get him to fill out forms about this now is a LB. So don't try. You do it on his behalf. Be really honest. What does he like about you? What doesn't he like? And work on that as a beginning. He will see the changes, but probably won't comment, he is waiting for you to LB. DO NOT LB. Well, I know sometimes that's impossible, but try anyway.<P>And....do not expect reciprocation for a while, as it sounds like he has a wall up. Just keep doing you Plan A stuff, and be consistent.<BR>

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