Okay..<BR>In the inviting thread I made on August 30th<P>Topic: If your L U R K I N G . . . Its OKAY... Please read!<BR>( <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/012174.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/012174.html</A> )<P>I posted I asked the lurkers to come out and say hello. I knew that there were going to be many people say hi.. and there are probably a couple of dozen more still lurking. But for now.. I'm cutting and pasting the New Members situation here.. for help from the MBer's.<P>Although I am strong and determined to help each and everyone of these new people.. I can't do it all on my own.<P>Some of us have the capability to 'coach' these new people for a few days to get them into the MB spirit. I am calling on all of you MBers for help.<P>I titled this: New Memeber: (members name) [Original Post] Coaching Request.<P>Title denotes that this is a new member.<BR>Their name<BR>their original post quoted<BR>and <BR>a coaching request from the OT (Ole Time) Members.<P>So this is where you OT members come in. I suggesting a new process here.. <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>Thank you so much H2Y. This has been a really bad day for me. I always come to this site for inspiration and to keep myself from feeling lonely. Your post has made me cry. (Yet again!!!). I am a BS. I have some of Dr. Harley's books, and some others that I read. 'The Road Less Traveled' - has kept me sane as well. <BR>My H is out of the country on work, has been gone for a while. He doesn't want to talk, and I just heard from him that he has to extend his stay. It was the last straw. I feel like this time alone is a preview of the rest of my life. I have a great career, but I still miss my H so much. He has always been there for me, and this is such a shock. I know he doesn't want to hurt me. He is truly in a fog. The other woman has told him not to contact her till he makes up his mind. I am probably one of the few on this site who does not hate the OW. She is in a different country as well and doesn't know me. All she knows is his perception of me, and he is on a different planet right now. The OW is his childhood sweetheart. Just my luck that she is single and lonely as well. She had turned him down 18 years ago. The story is real long and maybe I'll share the details one day, but he thinks her family turned her against him and she was too immature to let him know the reason or to stand up to them. There are a lot of holes in his story and he knows that. But all he can see is that the woman he loved has said yes. Now our marriage of almost 15 years is a mistake he made and wants to correct.<BR>I keep hoping that he will come out of the fog. He will hurt so many more people by what he is doing. He hasn't asked for a divorce to date. He says he has to figure out his feelings. Till he does, he will not work at the marriage. We have started counseling but had only 3 sessions. He is already planning his next trip out of the country and he hasn't even returned yet. <BR>I try to be brave most of the time, but have days like today, when all I can do is wallow in self-pity. I came in to work but couldn't. So I entered this site, as I do almost everyday, and your post touched me right in my heart. Thank you so much. You and the others help me to 'hang in there'.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>So who is going start off Coaching this New Member?<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P><B>Husband2You</B><BR>*****<BR><I>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···</I><P>· E-mail: <B>
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