Ok.....my WH has been out of the house for about 3 months now.<BR>He had been spending alot of time with the OW.....even took the girls around her.....BIG LB for me.<P>AND....just when I am ready to move on with my life without him in it other than the girls' father he does an ALMOST complete 360 on me.<P>Starting last week he calls me....out of the blue and just wants to talk....mostly about him and the OW. About how they don't get along very well....she seems to be becoming a different person than what he thought he knew and so on. I wasn't judgmental....just sat there and listened to what he had to say.....and then said....I don't know exactly what you want me to say....he said....nothing...I just needed to talk to someone.<BR>On Wednsday he called me again out of the blue....just wanted to talk...then asked to come over...just to hang out. The girls were already in bed so I said ok. He ended up staying the night and giving me a kiss when he left for work.<BR>After this we get along great....talking alot more....seeing each other alot more....him initiating it all.<BR>He called me last night and asked me if I wanted to come out and watch a movie. My mother is still here so I asked her to watch the girls and she agreed so I went.<BR>We sat on the couch together....not too close....and shared a cover....and after a while he acutally started showing me some affection. <BR>I was too tired to drive home so I called my mother and let her know that I would be home before the girls woke up. <BR>Yes....we slept in the same bed....no nothing happened.....except for alot of cuddling.<BR>He woke me up when he was ready to leave for work...we walked out to our cars together and after I got in mine he leaned in the window....gave me a kiss and said....be careful.<BR>Today he came over to fix the furnace and visited with the girls for a bit. When he left he said....I'll call you later ok? I said.....ok.<BR>He called me on my cell phone while I was out doing some running and started telling me about being tired of the OW again....how she wants everything her way. I finally told him that he knew it was going to happen....just didn't want to admit it. He went on to say that he was going to end it with her and this and that.<BR>Then went on to tell him that with the way he has been acting lately that I had this feeling that I was being set up to be hurt again. <BR>He got very serious and said....I'm not in this to hurt you...and it's fair for you to feel that way I know.<BR>I said....this isn't a game for me. He said it's not a game for me either.<BR>I then went on to tell him that when he shows me affection that it means something to me.....he said....how do you know it doesn't mean something to me. I did it because I wanted to...you didn't ask me to did you?<BR>We talked a little more about how I felt and I finally said....I know that you are never going to come home. He said....what makes you think that? I said.....because you told me that you would never move back into town....which means that you would never move back home with me and the girls.<BR>He said...to my surprise.....what would you think about you and the girls moving out here to the country with me?<BR>I said.....um....I don't know....cuz I really didn't.<BR>He said....are you ok....or do you need me to come get you and take care of you? I said....I'm fine...I need to be here for the girls tonight.....he said jokingly....ok....guess I will go to my lonely bed without you to cuddle with then. I said....you could always come here and cuddle with me....but he said he was too tired to drive.....which I knew was true...could tell by his voice that he was.<P>So...anyone want to take a stab at this new part of my WH starting to come through?<P>

I could be wrong, because I have not been there done that but, it seems to me like your Plan B may be coming to a close pretty soon! AND, your H is leaving the choice up to you...<P>Do you dare ask him whether or not OW is still in the picture?<P>Wow. It all sounds pretty good to me. Do you trust his recent change in behavior?<P>Read some notable posts in Just Found Out on when Plan B ends. There might be some helpful info there!<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000554.html" TARGET=_blank>Click Here</A>

Hooray!!! The Mothership has landed! Congratulations!

MP.......this is AWESOME news! I've been wondering how things were going in your world. So very, very glad to hear that things are looking up for you and your family. Do yourself a favor.....pace yourself at a level that is comfortable to you. Good luck, girlfriend!!<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

MP, this is an excellent sign. Your H is finally starting to come out of la-la land and face reality.<P>This is good. The road ahead will be long. My H started doing this SAME thing back in late June. I wanted to believe, BUT he still kept OW around for a while as a lifeline. PA stopped, but EA stayed for a while, then EA finally ended as well. Then came the extraordinary precautions to make sure it wouldn't start back up again...<P>From what I read, most recoveries seem to go this way, or close to it...<P>It's a gradual process. I hope it works out for you this way as well. The ball is in his court now. Let him prove to you that he is serious about being in a committed relationship to you. It sounds like that is what he is thinking. <P>I am very happy for you, this is excellent progress. Remember, after withdrawal comes conflict, and then intimacy. You are just slowly coming out of withdrawal phase, guess what's next??<P>LOL, I am very happy for this progress. Stay as strong as you can, and do NOT get your hopes up. Just accept what you get and be happy with the moment. Don't try to jump the gun.<P>HbH