Good morning everyone. Here's a question to all I am nearing 6mos.of my H and I separated and I'm wondering how and where everyone was 6mos. ago. Has your M recovered? Have you divorced? Was it the worst time of your life and now you look back and realize how much stronger you are. 6mos. later and although I know I've gotten stronger and more independent through this I'm still just as confused. Does that ever go away?<BR>C

Hi Cybil,<BR>It is a drag isn't it?! There is no magic formula. Everyone's marriage is unique and different. My husband had 2 PA in 1994 and continued contact with one of OW up until this year. We separated 3 times in the last year for his contact. I am hopeful "this time" it's over but I am still on guard and not foolish enough to totally believe and trust. We all have our ups and downs - maybe your just down right now. It is definately the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I don't think there is a timetable. Triggers happen and you can be thrown back into "that horrible time". I don't want OW to control my life and mind so whenever she pops into my mind I try and just pray that she is not worth my energy and hope someday she come to a place where is is sorry for her role in it. <BR>Hang in there. Be true to you and your feelings. Triggers happen - identify them and discuss with your H. Be vulnerable and honest about your insecurities (Easy for me to say - but HARD to do!) MB's are here for you.