Hi BW. Just wanted to give you a great big hug and let you know that we are here for you today.<p>I KNOW you can do this, you can keep from contacting Pat. You have the power to overcome this!!!<p>I've been thinking about you all morning. I do hope that you will take my advice to start individual counseling to hopefully figure out what it is that you want in your life.<p>The best thing you can do for your wife, is simply tell her the truth. Tell her you are in counseling and that you are figuring it out. AND, that you have stopped all contact with Pat and realize that no matter what you were going through, it was a bad decision to get your needs met outside of your marriage. Thank her for being so patient and loving of you.<p>I hope you can do this, I know if you really want it, you'll do it. It will take time, but with the no contact and the counseling, I promise you, in a few months, you will know what it is BW needs and wants out of life.<p>Pat is keeping you from that realization and that help. You are destined to live the remainder of your life in guilt/pain/misery until you are able to sort out your feelings, figure out what happened, and take control of your life. You have already taken the first steps you need to figure this out. No contact.<p>Don't fail us now!!! We are routing for you!
Hbh

I'm with HbH, BeenWishin!<p>You can make this a Pat-less Day .... <p>Prayers ...
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