New to this site. I have been close to having an affair with another woman (long time friend). Fortunately, except for one very brief "thank you" kiss after helping her with some house repairs nothing has happened. But I can see that over time this will lead to nothing but trouble. I don't want to become another statistic!

Hey ktf,
You are right not to want to "go there" so I suggest that you STOP going over there to fix stuff at her house! There are plenty of handymen who advertise in the local papers!<p>Better yet, if you insist on going over her house to fix stuff, take your wife with you--that is, if you are married. Never be alone with this person!<p>Read this too!
How to Avoid an Affair

That is how my H's affair started!! He would go fix things at her house. Soon he was fixing things at her house and neglecting ours.<p>Yesterday, was our 34th anniversary. He came but would not look me in the eye!! He has only said 2 things that I did to caused him to leave and move in with her. I asked for his forgivness for hurting him-- He is going to think about it!!<p>He has no money and she is paying for everything. She is now buying him new clothes, even a new style of underware.<p>She has cut him off from all of his family. He is in such heavy FOG that I do not think he can even see what is happening. I also wonder about drugs.<p>This was the first week end that she has allowed him to be free in 7 weeks. (He left on 10/28)
He came at noon and had to leave by 5:00. HOW DOES THE OW HAVE SO MUCH CONTROL??<p>mY ADVISE IS TO ALWAYS TAKE YOUR WIFE WHEN YOU GO TO HELP FIX THINGS FOR OW.