Just a quck question...My wife says she has lost her desire. Her affair ended Dec 9. Wants to work on marriage but says she has no desire to show affection. She says she lost it before the OM.
Question is...when love came back, how much work was involved for the one that lost the love, and any hints would be helpful. I have been Plan A'ng for 5 weeks. Have done alot of reading, looking for responses from those that have rediscovered love.

B4, I guess you live in Mass and are a Bobby Orr fan. Good for you, I like #16 from Phila.
I am not a woman but can provide some help.
You are early in the game and be happy the A is over, you need to be proactive so she dos'nt go back to him. Clikc on this link and read approaite articles, <p>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8100_article.html<p>"Wants to work on marriage but says she has no desire to show affection. " This is common for WS.
"She says she lost it before the OM." Typicle, READ, whay women leave men.<p>
"Question is...when love came back, how much work was involved for the one that lost the love, and any hints would be helpful." Lot of work to restore and keep love, its a life time process, but one that becomes habitual aftere time. I don't know your story, but read the basic concepts and print them out and give them to her. Buy the books and share them. A session with the Harleys will prove invaluable.