I have a question my H is living with OW. We are in the mists of a divorce and the court order states that he can not have the kids around her during visitation he has broken this everytime. I just found out that she even spanked my chidren for breaking a glass (the baby who at the time was 9 months old did by knocking it out of her hand) H denies it but why would a 5 year old and 4 year old at diffent times and with out the other one there say that this happened if it was not true? H said to me that I should get use to the idea of her being around because they are seriously talking about getting married but have not set a date are planning to. He has become someone that I do not know and that I hate. He cares nothing about anyone but him self and believes everything that comes out of that ***** mouth. How often do these marriages last is this something that I should be concerned about is it fog I just don't get it still after four months of seperation I do not get it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

helphopeful! The stastics say only 5% of those who divorce actually marry the other person. Of those that do, most last less than a year and in states where divoce can be obtained quicker, less than 6 months!
As for the children, you need to go to the family courts if he files. They usually oversee visitations, etc. Take your older children to attest to the abuse! States have different laws, but here in CA. where my daughter divorced, she got the family court to supervise visitations. Based on the fact her H drinks and drives. And she has the right to say who they can be around also! the first thing you need to do is go to family court and if you've already been for the visitation orders, you can go back for free! They usually have a separate office so it's not actually going before a judge. Please call down to the court clerks and ask! This woman has no business around your children when she is spanking a 9 mo old!
As for me, her eyes would be torn out! GRRRRRRRRR
Get assistance on this quick. And if this is who the H wants to be hooked up with, more power to him. You deserve better and so do the children!
He and OW can make each other miserable.
Here is a good site someone else posted on a thread here. I can't find them to thank them, but it's a great site. http://www.metasystemscenter.org/articles.htm
God bless you and watch over you and those precious children. LouLou