a friend who is a judges clerk said that the ow could be sued..

the ow in my wh life was my best friend. she used my information to get him to leave.

has anyone heard of this?

I heard about it in some EXTREME cases, but I believe that those cases involved the OW breaking the law and also harassing the BS,,,,I don't think it's all that common, or all that practical in most cases,,,,Im not sure most attorneys would even TAKE the case unless there were some extreme provocation there,,,,,but then again, im not an attorney,,,,,,,,Holly

From what I know, the OW can be sued. If there was cause for financial stress, breaking a marriage, especially if this is the other womans 2nd sexual affair. Taking away hours of husband working, and especially if she didn't work, and used all the day hours to interfere with the mans work. Also, the lies, and deceit. You can sue for damages of emotional turmoil. And if the other woman called your home to speak to you. I know that for a fact. CAuse the other woman called me and manipulated me with suicide if husband and I were to call her husband about the affair.

First they would deposition the other woman, and that of course would cost money. My lawyer was going to do that. And of course, if the other woman, you could prove that your husband spent money on her. Time, going to a hotel, etc. all of that.

Yes, it can be done for mental damages too. Which is most cases wins. I feel the other woman did mental damages to me, coercing and manipulating me with suicide if husband and I were to tell her husband about this second sexual affair she had. Then she laughed in my face,and said she was going shopping with her son. What a joker of a fat liar, a fat balding woman.

But talk to your lawyer. He can give you advice on that. That is what I did.

In my state, the OW can be sued for Alienation of Affections (taking someone's spouse) or Criminal Conversation (having sex with a married person). Unfortunately, the OW in my case does not have any money.

Steve H. says bringing these suits work though. He said "if you can't rid of the drug, get rid of the drug dealer". Once served the OP gets scared.

I asked several lawyers about Alienation of Afection lawsuits in my state. They all said the same things, you can do it, but it is a waste of time. Most lawyers wouldn't even bother with that type of lawsuit because most of the time you lose, then the OW could sue YOU for harrasment! That is waht I was told. I am a guy, so maybe a woman sueing might stand a better chance.

STTSI

I too, am seriously thinking of filing against the OW. She knew he was married, and continued to call and invite him in. It has devestated me, HIS children (by another), and has financially ruined me. I know it's not just the OW at fault, but I would love to get her out of the picture and let her know, what she helped destroy. She has no money, but I don't care. It's the truth that I am after.

I found a lawyer willing to sue the OW and my SIL for alienation of affection AND intentional infliction of emotional distress. I was warned I may not get much out of it, but the satisfaction of a VERY public lawsuit would be enough for me. I haven't went that far yet, but OW (or SIL) is playing games again with instant messages...I'm getting close to letting the lawyer off his chain.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by roseyheart:
<strong> She has no money, but I don't care. It's the truth that I am after.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YOU may not care, but your ATTORNEY will,,,,most cases where you sue for something like this are done on a contingency basis,,,,meaning the attorney takes a share of whatever money a jury awards YOU,,,if an attorney feels that the case wont GET an award from a jury, or that there is no hope of recovering any award a jury might GIVE you, he wont take the case,,,the other choice is to PAY an attorney outright to take the case, which he might be willing to do, but then again attorneys cost upwards of 100 dollars an hour,,,a case like this could easily add up to THOUSANDS of dollars that I personally would rather spend on a cruise alone with my husband,,,,but that's just MHO,,it may be important enough for others to spend that type of money on,,,and admittedly none of my husband's affairs have involved women who refused to stay away once asked, so my opinion may be jaded somewhat,,,,,Holly

<small>[ February 16, 2003, 06:28 PM: Message edited by: HeartHealing ]</small>

I too have considered an "alienation of affection" lawsuit against my wife's OM. These cases are typically NOT taken on contingency for the exact reason stated above- it is difficult to collect any damages that are awarded. Attorneys will typically take cases on contingency when it is easier to collect damages, such as when an insurance company is involved. In this situation, an attorney would charge an hourly fee or work off of a retainer.

Will I do this? Doubtful as it would enrage my wife. However, it would also bring public the A and force the two of them to deal with the consequences. It would be worth the money to me if I wasn't so certain to upset WW, I would enjoy watching OM work to pay off his debt to me!!!

FYI...

Aleniation of Affection Article

Not as easy as it seems.

<<<I would enjoy watching OM work to pay off his debt to me!!!>>>

If you got the chance to SEE it,,,,I was sued in 1996 (I accidentally burned a house down that we were renting,,,we had no renters insurance, and the OWNERS insurance company paid him the damages and then sued me,,accident or not, I got sued) for 178 thousand dollars,,,,did the insurance company watch me work it off?? no,,,,I went bankrupt, which is probably what HE would do,,,,,Holly

HOLYSPIT, lol,,,,,you can only sue for Alienation of affection in the following states,,,,

Hawaii
Illinois
Mississippi
Missouri
New Hampshire
New Mexico
North Carolina
South Dakota
Utah

I was sued by a BS. It is a VERY long and twisted story. At the end of the day it took 3 years to sort out, cost the BS a lot of money in legal fees and the case ended up being thrown out. It never cost me a dime.

By the time the case was done he had already cheated with someone else.

For those thinking about it, I say be careful. Vengence is a sword swung by the blade.

does anyone think this is a good idea?????

bump for responses

I thought about it but in the end...the real end, OM will get his eternally!

bump for anyone who has done this, or has a opinion

What, may I ask, do you hope to achieve by this?

What is your ultimate goal? What do you want?

I wonder if any of the OW have sued the WS?

I would do it only to give her a good scare. Other then that, she has nothing.

It would only be a way to publicly humilate her like she's done me. Purely revenge...so I don't think I would do it..

Something tells me that a good percentage of sexual harassment suits are OP vs. WS.

In my case, because we worked together the BS came after me (the OP) in a sexual harassment suit.