Hi everyone, I am back after much confusion on the home front. After breaking up with OW, my WS came back to live on the pretense that we would work on the marriage. He called OW after 3 weeks and that was all it took. They then found another apartment and furnished it, but he then stalled on moving back in with her. OW sits with her H and is waiting for my WS to make a move. He has told me that his heart isnt really into this move this time and that it will kill him to leave his children again. But yet, he lives here, and sees her on the side again, sometimes going for a romp at their apartment. He has the best of both worlds again, but I am at lost as to what to do. He knows he has to make a decision and I told him that he has to do it fast. That he cannot live here and continue his affair. Am I wrong to but the pressure on, when I think he really is close to making the decision to stay? It is so cruel that he sees her while living with me. Such as it is..... we are like roomates. he sleeps in the guest room and even eats in there too. It is like he feels disloyal to her if we get too friendly. I do not understand anything that is going on. Is there anyone that can figure it out for me? Thanks.... Pookie4

Keep the pressure up and either pull him in your bed or crawl into his...you do not need to do anthying at this point but sleep.

He is the "fog" and I would not be nagging, just love him with kindness and wait for the fog to lift. Remember, kids eventually leave, you will still be there.