I also posted this on just found out- but thought it might be more of a general question. 2bm

My ws is informing me that once I get a job he is moving out to "think things through". He needs space. He swears there is no ow, but he's lying. I've found too much small evidence here and there(which he just denies). Erasing all cell phone call lists, changing last number called on speed dial, dialing our home from home with cell when I'm gone to cover *69 , bottle of cologne just shows up after his 40th b-day(which he tries to say he bought himself but just can't remember where).

I understand the real reason he wants to move out is so he has more time with the ow even though he won't admit it.

What is the diference between divorce and legal separation. If he moves out, do I need it done legally to protect myself while he's "figuring things out"? We have two children ages 2 and 4. I had a really good job prior to us deciding for me to be a SAHM.. So, an attorney already told me if we do divorce, I get no alimony. But I never asked about legal separation- why and when you use it, etc.. What does a legal separation do for me, us? Thank you.
2bm

A legal seperation will help to clarify the child custody and financial issues. It is similar to disillusion but does not legally end your marriage. Child support will be included, and a division of debts, properties, etc. Basically both of you will have to agree to all items and terms and to live seperately. Though you may not receive alimony, most states that have legal seperation laws have a set formula for determining the amount of child support that the abandoning parent must pay. I filedfor legal seperation because I did not want to be the one to end my M but wanted to protect what assets I had.