I know that most A's involve physical contact with OP. As a Christian, I was always taught that was a SIN. How do you guys get past the pain of thinking that your Spouse has had intimate moments with OP? I've forgiven him for what he's done but sometimes I just can't get the picture of the two of them together, out of my head!!! I was just told today that my H was constantly seen with Hickies on his neck the weeks after he left me. I had an idea stuff like that had happened and could still be happening but to have it confirmed, is opening up the wound again. I've been very strong but now and then I just can't take it. I feel so hurt that I just want to cry my head off. All the questions come back to my head.....Why did he do this to me? Why did I have to go thru this? What did I ever do wrong to deserve this? I know that this is part of the roller-coaster but what do you guys do to get past it? I feel desperate right now!!!

Hi Hopeful. Hang on honey. It is a bumpy ride, isn't it? I am sure you are doing wonderfully well in spite of this horrible development in your life. As far as I know, when wrenching thoughts come, you pray, hang on to God for dear life and reaffirm that HE is your rock, the One who fills your needs, ultimately. He is the only One you can't do without! He will make good of this for you somehow, as you follow Him.
You did not do ANYTHING to deserve this--you may well have contributed to whatever marriage problems exist, but you did not make the decision to break your wedding vows and betray your precious life-partner. We live in a fallen world that groans with the troubles in it and waits in "hopeful" expectation of the day things will be made right. When major disappointments come our way, the Spirit of God on the inside groans with us, and reminds us by our grief that this life isn't what it is supposed to be; BUT sin never has the last word in the life of a believer. We can anticipate and eagerly look forward to the day when every wrong will be righted and the sorrows of this life are no more. Keep praying for your husband and yourself. Read and write on this site. Keep your eyes on the prize little one.

you have some of the same questions i have...why did he do this to us...what did i do to deserve this pain..i wish i had some answer..i have never felt pain like this before...
and if you dont mine could some one..let me what some of the letters mean..lol..i know H=husband, but a lot of them...i have no ideal.lol...sorry
God Bless You and Your Life

Wow! Thank you for the BEAUTIFUL words Want2Shine!

You are SO right! I've learned alot about prayer these past months and I have gotten so much closer to God. I'll definitely keep praying every time I get some bad thoughts. He's helped me this far and I KNOW he will guide me thru it all.

I know I didn't do anything to deserve this but sometimes I just feel so down that I just want to give up. I love my H very much and I miss him so much but I know that I have to be PATIENT!

I pray for my M every day and I know that God will lead me to the end of that tunnel where I will find a great reward. The road there is just so hard!

unsureanymore,

I'm fairly new here as well and I don't know many of the meanings for the letters either but here are a few.....

H = Husband
W = Wife
M = Marriage
D-day = Discovery Day (day affair was discovered)
A = Affair
WS = Wayward Spouse
WH = Wayward Husband
WW = Wayward Wife
OP = Other Person
OW = Other Woman
OM = Other Man
MC = Marriage Counselor
LB's = Love Busters
SAA = Surviving An Affair (it's a book)

Perhaps somebody else can help out with some more. I can't remember the rest right now.