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#2967667 06/12/03 03:34 PM
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Does anyone else get "nervous" or have doubts about the intentions behind in regards to the times your WS does or says something abnormally nice or positive towards you?

How do you get the feeling of betrayal out of your mind to where you can accept they may JUST be trying to make things right?

Could SURE use some advice to learn to trust again...

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I question and doubt everything, and I mean everything he says to me. For example...on Sunday, he was with me, totally "out there"...I know he is thinking of OW. Anyway, on Monday afternoon, he calls me from work and is as happy as a clam. He is saying he is going to drop the check in the mail, yada, yada, yada. Now, when he is with me he is so annoying with his "pained expressions", yet, when he has access to the OW, he is as bouncy as a ball. Now, why wouldn't I be suspect? H has moved in with OW and now I no longer wonder and the betrayal is subsiding. All that is left to me is deceit. Now, it is up to me to decide to carry on the anger or just let it go and let him realize what he misses. If you WS is still in the fog, you shouldn't trust anything he says, unless his actions prove otherwise. There were so many times, too many to even count now, when I blindly believed my H. I hung on his every word, only to find that they were lies. I even used this example on his. I told him, "Remember in the beginning, not long after DDay when you started your lying about coming home, missing us, etc., etc., and you never did. Yet, you continually did it and I stupidly followed. Well, when my eyed opened and I realized that you were lying, I no longer believed anything you said. Now, only his actions will show me he is not lying. Let me tell you, we are approaching our ninth month of separation and guess what, he is still lying and, the longer he does, the more he is damaging his chances of losing the best thing to ever grace his life.


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