I'm working on day 2 of plan B. And h is supposed to deposit reg. child support plus a specified amount of back child support into account today. Well it turns out that the paperwork for having the support come directly out of his check has gone through. He was already complaining about not being able to give me what we agreed upon, now when he see’s that his bi-weekly paycheck is substantially smaller I have a feeling he is not going to deposit the back CS he owes me. He’s just going to look at his check and say oh, they’ve put the paper work through and try to avoid the fact that he owes me more. I definitely don’t want to call him. I really don’t want anyone calling on my behave. But in about 2 hours (I know my h like the palm of my hand) he is going to go to the bank and make a decision. I really don’t want to take the chance on him not depositing that money, because if he doesn’t I’m going to feel even more betrayed and I am going to feel like I need to contact the enforcement about it. So I think the best thing to do would be to send a friendly reminder that although they have taken the regular amount you still need to pay the backup today. Any quick advice. I don’t want to call. I think I'll have my mom do a conference call so I can but in if need be.

MYB, doesn't the court enforce arrearage for Child Support. I do not know what state you are in, but in both PA and NJ, from the time the paperwork is filed, until it goes through all support monies owed is then tacked on in arrearage. Unfortunately, it is not in one "lump sum", but it is sometimes a $10-$20 increase in the regular payment. Some men, if they are of means, like to pay it up front, but like I said, all states are different.

Unfortunately for the WS, they think that the fog protects them from being a father...it is his financial responsibility, as well as obligation to support his children and you know, you shoudn't give a darn what he thinks his check looks like; it is for his children and that is all that should matter.

I've been there where my spouse has fought me and now he realizes (because I do not hide my expenditures on the children from him) that it is his children who benefit, ie, camp, tuition, clothes, sneakers, shoes, trips, etc.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> MYB, doesn't the court enforce arrearage for Child Support. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, I believe they do. But Last month while I was still plan Aing my h came up with this bogus robbery story and failed to pay any CS. I thought that if I reported him the sheriff’s would be all over him at his job…anywhere they could get him, atleast to serve papers. So He offered his method of repay and I excepted. This is his way out in his eyes. I'm sure.