I am needing to vent. I'm just so mad. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I was on my way home from grocery shopping with the twins in tow (in a wagon), and who drives by us? None other than my stbxH. I see him all of the time along this particular road... which is just on the boundary of where he isn't supposed to be (a one block radius of our matrimonial home). He is also, according to his recognizance, not to have any contact or association with me, either directly or indirectly, unless in a courtroom setting with legal counsel present.

What did nuckfuts decide to do? He threw me the bird!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I checked my watch, and it said 9:51 a.m., (which meant 10:51 a.m., since I can't figure out how to change the time on it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ). I was home shortly after 11am, and called the police right away.

Within an hour, an officer came to take my statement, and told me that I had the choice to either have him charged and arrested, or warned. I asked whether or not charging him would have any effect on the other investigations, and was told no, so that's what I opted for.

According to the constable, who will call me later on this afternoon to tell me what happened, stbxH will be arrested, and will more likely than not be spending the entire weekend in jail.

I am SO MAD!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I know... I should be doing a happy dance... b/c sure enough, he's digging his own grave more and more. But I think I"m just mad at the fact that I have to deal with all of this in the first place.

He already had another bail hearing scheduled for Monday (August 25th), so I won't know too much more until after that... on the 26th probably. I'm not sure if this means he'll get NO bail... but you never know. I don't care either way.

Thanks for hearing out my vent again folks. I appreciate it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'll update on this thread once I hear from the arresting officer.

Karen

Karen,

ARRGHHH!!!! I'm mad too. He flipped you the bird in front of your children! I want to throw a big rock at him. (Not very mature, but when I get this mad throwing a rock is my first instinct.)

I hope they deny bail, not just because I'm mad, but because I don't like the idea that people like this are still roaming free.

I hope the kids either didn't see or understand the gesture.

What kills me is his attitude that he has the right to be angry with you for being a moral person. I very much admire your strength. If there were more people out there like you, the world would be a MUCH better place.

Keep being strong and being a good role model for your children. In the long run, they're going to take after you and will be better people for your example.

Dobie

Good grief...what is wrong with this guy? UGH!!!!!

Karen, keep your head up and know that you will soon not have this headache in your life!

Luv ya girl!

The constable called me back about an hour ago, but this is my first chance to get online to update.

stbxH was arrested, and is in jail for the weekend. It is highly unlikely that he will have a bail hearing on Saturday.

He admitted to the officer that he saw me alongside the road this morning, but of course, has denied flipping the bird to me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Come on all... does this surprise anyone that he's still denying his actions... say it with me.... NO!!!! .

What an [censored].

But at least he admitted that he was skirting along the border of where he's not supposed to be (that one block radius from the matrimonial home thing).

The arresting officer was also quite surprised that stbxH was okay'd to live in the next street over. Hopefully someone will catch on to that at the courthouse, and make him move. That's IF he gets bail again. Technically, this is the SECOND breach of his bail conditions. The first one being in the end of June, when he didn't appear before the court when he was supposed to (that time, he blamed his lawyer for not telling him he had to be there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ).

I won't know more until Tuesday afternoon, b/c of his court appearance for the child porn possession on Monday morning (it takes about a day to get the info transferred into the computer systems). But then again... my contact at the courthouse might call me on Monday to let me know if he was let out on the weekend or not. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I"ll just find out things as they happen, I guess.

Dobie and Angelia: Thanks for the replies gals. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hopefully I"ll see you two in chat again soon. I was there last night (yup.. it's been awhile, I know). I might be in there again tonight to vent about this... but I'll put it all aside of course to help out L if she's there again.

Karen

Hey Topie!!

Again nothing surprises me that comes from ur H.
I'm sorry he is this insensitive and the more in front of the kids. I hope he spend the weekend in jail, he well deserves it.

also...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> which meant 10:51 a.m., since I can't figure out how to change the time on it </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">gGive me brand and model number and I'll try to find you ten instructions LOL. what good is a watch if it doesn't give the right time??? LOL

Take care

Topie,

This guy just doesn't know when to quit pushing you, does he? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Maybe THIS will teach him that you are not into playing games and this is serious.

Hope to catch ya in chat soon!!

Hey matilde: SO... who's got the crazy H now, eh??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Thanks for the offer on the watch... but fall is around the corner, and so is another time change. So the watch will be right again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I do have the instructions... somewhere. It's probably in a VERY safe place, so I don't lose it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Nerly: I was just in chat now... but no one was there. I'll try back again later though. His pushing is getting rather tiresome. I'm just glad that what he did was enough for an arrest. It's still my word against his... but so far, his word hasn't been too credible. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Karen