***I don't trust him because he's decided that his career is more important than our marriage and my peace of mind.***

That's exactly where I am, too. He really drove that home to me last night and was tremendously annoyed with *me* that I was not happy about it, but at least he was finally honest with me.

You might want to take a look at my post titled "Cerri - a real hardcore case for you, and I don't mean porn" on the JFO board and see what she says.

***I've lost nearly 40 pounds because every morning, as he's walking out the door to go to that office, I'm in the bathroom losing what little food I've managed to put in my stomach.***

Boy, tell me about the Morning Meltdown. Thanks for mentioning it -- at least I'm not the only one, and neither are you! I haven't lost that much weight but a daily nervous breakdown can't be good for me or anyone else.

I drive my son to school each day, so I try to stay away until H is is gone. It is physically painful to watch him leave, especially when he's going to That Place. But of course he can't figure out why and is still waiting for me to "get it out of my system."

If you take a look at the thread I mentioned, you'll see why I'm ready for a strait-jacket. If it's any consolation, I understand exactly how you feel.

psycho -
Thanks for the empathic shoulder. I'm just sorry that there's ANYONE also going through this hell.

I'll read the other thread on JFO. I appreciate your help.