Well it seems like a few of us are in the same place. The affiars seem to be reaching a point of critical mass.

As my WW still can't talk to me or anyone about her affair for that matter I only get a peak now and then for OM wife.

Well in August OM wife went into Plan B she had enough. Of course OM responded with the normal "I choose her (my wife) not you, so it's over now"

So for the past 8 weeks she's been in Plan B other than deeling with separation issues. Keeping the conversations short and to the point.

Well I got a call from OM wife this week and OM is again sitting on the fence but this time he told her he knows the relationship is going know where and that he and my WW basicly just hang out as they have know one else to socialize with.

He wants to talk about there marriage. But couldn't make the commitment to stop seeing my WW.

If your wondering what really brought the turn of events on - we had thanksgiving in Canada and my WW and OM spent it togther because niether family will accept the other.

SO my question is - Does OM Wife stay in Plan B until complete no-contact is in place or does she talk with her husband a little giving him the taste of her Plan A then if he can't go no-contact very soon slam the door and go back to Plan B.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">" Does OM Wife stay in Plan B until complete no-contact is in place or does she talk with her husband a little giving him the taste of her Plan A then if he can't go no-contact very soon slam the door and go back to Plan B."</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The problem with coming out of Plan B without a firm committment from the WS to end all contact with the OP FOREVER [and a willingness to rebuild the marriage through a marital recovery plan that includes conseling with an MB oriented and professional and faithfully following The Four Rules For A Succesful Marriage ] is that it leads to what is often referred to as a 'false recovery'. False recoveries are so destructive that they often end up totally depleting the BS's love bank and desire to save the marriage. The OM's W would be wise to consider staying in Plan B until the OM makes a total committment to end all contact with your WW FOREVER.