I hope my previous post will help clear the minds of OM/WH. Assuming most A are the first, you WH have to know your marriage to your wife didn't happen based on dishonesty or lack of trust. You loved her so don't let any OW sever that love.

Work on your selfishness. I am. OW/WW really need to consider that we can think we are in love, what we are in love with is the "new" person that needs us. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I cried whenever the OM tried to break it off. I seem to have issues that would keep him involved with me. Of course he didn't have the heart to follow through because he needed to care for someone and be needed and appreciated. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

We all put up a front to some degree even when we have "poured our hearts out" to the OP. Spend that heart pouring time with your spouse.

All my mistakes over the yrs.have been my choice, I have no one to blame but me. I can't blame it on parents, spouse, OM. My selfishness to get involved with a married man is the ultimate. It affects so many people. As stated in previous post it rears it's ugly head through "caring" and needing to be needed.

Hope this helps. Yourstruly <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I am not a uncaring person,just one who lets it get me into trouble by misusing it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />