Three weeks ago, my WW left home to clear her head and listen to her heart. Her pride has kept her from seeking out the advice and comfort of those whom love her (friends and family). I understand her not being able to talk with me right now about her feelings, yet my nature is to be there to show her love and support.

I've read SAA and wonder whether not being there for her now is the moral thing to do in a marriage. Not a minute goes by where I don't want to talk to her on the phone and it's heartbreaking coming home to an empty house. Each morning there is the hope that today will be the day that she comes home and the fog has been lifted. I've told her over and over that I want to focus on the future but can't do that alone. She is hesitant to come home because she doesn't feel 100% in the right mindset, but yet I don't think anyone would expect that. I know she is going through the worst time of her life dealing with the feeling of guilt and depressed. As a husband, is it in the best interest to not call her all the time and tell her how much I love her?

My main question is whether or not people (those of you whom have been through similar ordeals) feel in hindsight that it is best to let their WS sort through things on their own? Would you have done it any other way?

my WW left home to clear her head and listen to her heart
More than likely, she left to continue the affair without you in the way.

I think you should lmit the contact you initiate. Be nice, don't smother her with "I love yous" when she calls.

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