someone,please help,my significant other ,and father of my 6 year old, has just been found out,,he has been calling a telephone personal ad line for over 2 and 1/2 years,to the tune of $150 a day on some days,says he just likes to listen,,,,why,,please why,would anyone do this,,
swears he doesn,t want anyone but me,never did it to meet anyone,just doesn't understand why he did it ,it was an old habit,kept him awake on long car trips,did it when he was bored,to the amount of $29.95per 100 minutes,,,he wants to go to a counselor to find out why ,has been once and has another appointment scheduled,,,but I am dieing inside in the meantime,,I have no trust,,,feel like there is more to this,and I don't know what to do or who to turn to,,we recently moved to his home town,I know no one .I saw a counselor who rec. I leave said this was abuse,,I am hurting so bad I don't trust my own judgement on anything,,,
please help,,,, mickeyb

<small>[ December 14, 2003, 01:35 PM: Message edited by: mickeyb ]</small>

Welcome to the forum Mickey. Could you explain what a telephone personal ad line is? What do you mean he just "listened"? I don't blame you for feeling like there is more to this...I think there is too. So sorry. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

telephone personal ads are like computer dating ads only done over the phone lines ,you can place an 'ad' stating what your looking for ,from sex to casual dating,or just friends,there is a live line when you dial and you can listen to ads or,listen to who is on the line live looking to chat.they advertise on late night tv,free to women,charges for men.It is a dating service for singles..

<small>[ December 14, 2003, 03:20 PM: Message edited by: mickeyb ]</small>

I have pulled all his phone records to calculate how much time ,money etc,was spent on this studied it for days,actually showed him a copy of,,I think it was Jacobs letter you,had requested on here,,it was beautiful,he said it helped him understand what I was doing.thank you for that...

<small>[ December 14, 2003, 03:17 PM: Message edited by: mickeyb ]</small>

Under further investigation,I believe what I am dealing w/ here is a sex addiction,anyone knowing anything about this and how this is a way of dealing with intimacy issues PLEASE contact me,,,
as soon as possible,,thank you

Mickey, I would suggest that you contact Penny Tupy. She posts on Just Found Out as Cerri. She's got a lot of experience in dealing with Sex Addictions and I think she would be able to help you. I know that she's taking this week off (as are many, many people), but send her an e-mail and I'm sure she'll get back to you as soon as she can. Her web site is www.saveyourmarriagecentral.com.

Also, go read everything you can at Sexhelp.com. That'll give you lots of good information with which you can start to think about things. No decisions over the next few days, okay? Just gather information and data so that when you calm down a little, you'll be better prepared.