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To all:<P>When my WS comes home from being with OM (they work together and they get together afterwards) she is terribly depressed and seems guilt ridden. It seems to be eating her up and she says things like, "I can't stay here anymore feeling the way I do about you"(Not in love, etc.) I don't think she knows I know that they are still seeing each other to the extent they are. She has to know I know they are together sometimes or else she thinks I'm the dumbest person ever born.<P>Question is: What does the depression/guilt mean? FYI-the only reason she continues to live here with our daughter and myself is because we really can't afford to separate (another reason she feels trapped)
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Guilt usually means you have done something wrong...<P>Depression means today looks bad and tomorrow looks bad and next week looks bad and next month looks the same as today--BAD, and not getting better any time soon...<P>Guilt can be appeased by doing the right thing.<P>Depression kills...<P>Prayer changes things. God's help is only a prayer away. I'll be praying for your family!
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havachance,<BR>I too will pray over your situation w/ ws. Try to show love and support when given the oppurtunity, good luck.<P>thanks BTDT your reply was a light to my path. WS is riddled w/ guilt, though she comes home tomorrow, she's been gone 6 weeks. I don't know what her plans are for this family or our marriage. <P>knight?
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No one should be forced to stay in a marriage against their will. You should not put up with her betrayal of you. Give her the choice to stay and work on the marriage or leave. I would show her that you are serious by getting ready to file for separation or divorce. Once the seriousness of what she is doing is really out in the open the affair will stop being a fantasy.
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I have a lot of theories on this:<P>--Maybe she's being forced into the A?<BR> I mean seriously is this guy her boss?<P>--I would recommend she quit her job. It would be a struggle but she can go elsewhere.<P>Okay, I confess I don't know the whole story, but I would think the guilt is a good sign. I would think she is thinking of your feelings...
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