I came across this around my d-day on another site (which for the life of me, I cannot remember the name of).<P>1. You can't make anyone love you and nobody can make you happy<P>2. Try all you want, you'll never change your partner. However, if you change yourself, your partner may change.<P>3. People don't marry people; they marry illusions and fantasies (what a surprise to discover that your partner is as human as you are!)<P>4. A real marriage begins just at the point where the illusion ends. The challenge of marriage is to discover who you married.<P>5. Love is only one of the reasons we choose a partner (sometimes, it's not the most important).<P>6. Most likely, the qualities that drive you crazy are the same ones that first attracted you to your partner.<P>7. It is impossible to go through a relationship without experiencing periods of pain and lonliness.<P>8. The greatest gift you can give your children is a loving marriage.<P>9. A marriage succeeds when each of us realizes that our partner's needs are at least as important as our own.<P>10. Marriage is the best opportunity to grow, overcome selfishness, and learn how to love.<P>Now let your marriage soar!!!<P>Karen

I like it!!

Nice Karen, I like it, funny how these things are taken for granted so often prior to or during marriage. No that will never happen to us. I remember going to see the preacher 4 times for pre-marriage counseling and thinking to myself, this is useless, we are so in love nothing will ever happen to us.

O<BR>M<BR>G!<P>GDC, H and I lived together for 5 years before we married. And while we were engaged (3 mos) we went to marriage counseling (the church we were Wed at required it).<P>I thought "Dang, we don't need this, we've lived together for so long and are so in love, nothing will ever happen to us".<P><BR>Jo

this deserves a bump ^ up.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

I said today that the 'innocence' was gone from my marriage...<P>...maybe that isn't such a bad thing....<P>I feel like a veil has been lifted from my eyes and I am living in the truth...I am awake in a way that I wasn't before the A....<P><BR>Cali