Hi everyone - me and my wife have our 15th anniversary coming up on Friday. This is either the "crystal" or "watch" anniversary, depending on whether you follow the traditional or contemporary gift list. She needs a new watch; I guess I'll go with that. <P>But then she'll probably go out with one of her OM's that night. It was that way on her birthday in May, she spent the day with an OM. So I would not plan an evening together.<P>I'm in plan A and talking with Steve Harley around once every 2 weeks. Been doing a lot of things with the kids and that helps. In the past couple weeks we've been on a long driving trip to see my folks, and then a short camping trip. We just got back today. Maybe I should give her the watch on Friday and then take the kids out. Might be easiest for all of us.<P>What do other people do about anniversaries? What do you write on the card? It seems like an especially loaded occasion.<P>- Tom

It is your special day not just hers. You do what you want to keep it special. If you want to send a card, then do it. There is no right or wrong here. For her to spend it with anyone else, is hurtful and very possible with the WS in the fog. Be prepared for that and have a back up plan in case she does that. You still plan to do something to make you feel better. I did. <P>I planned to go hear the Sunday morning brunch radio show hosted by one of the hotels. Able to do that with or without H. Well, he chose to come but not after OW tried to call 3 times. YUCK. I was determined to have a nice time and I did. <P>JMHO,<BR>L.<BR>

Dear tmmx,<P>I'm so sorry that you are in this position on such a special occasion. I'm praying that God will speak to your wife and maybe give her a glimpse of the torture she is inflicting upon her family. My prayers are with you too, that God would strengthen you as you sound like you're in single parent mode right now and your kids need you to be at your optimum in spite of the circumstances. May God comfort and strengthen you at this difficult time.<P>Also praying for all the OM that something would come up and they would all be too busy to hang out with your W... or better yet, that they would kick her to the curb and she can realize that you are there and will be there for her. Lord, turn tmmx's wife's heart toward home, in Jesus' Name! Amen.<P>I have an idea? What if you present her with the card early, like today perhaps? And you could write on it that you would really love to spend Friday evening with her for dinner, that you have a surprise for her (the watch, shhh), and that you would just love to spend some time with her in honor of your 15th anniversary if she was willing. Love always, tmmx (?)