Being cautious but.. this is how it went down.<P>I was just told I'm gettng paid this week.. After taxes.. a mere<BR>1500.00 oh well..<P>first months rent..<P>so.. I got excited and called W at work.. told her.. and she said..:<P>(W is in " " 's)<P><BR>"Are you sure you want to move here to Dallas?"<P>Yes, I want to be near you as well as the boys...<P>"um"<P>what?<P>"are you sure"<P>Yes W, I'm positive... Do you not want to be there in Dallas?<P>"not really.."<P>Where do you want to be?<P>now she said this very quickly.. "wichyou"<P>what did you say?<P>"nothing"<P>Did you say With me?<P>"Yes. I think.."<P>You want to be with me?<P>"Yes.. as friends."<P>In the same house?<P>"yes"<P>Okay. YIIIIPPPPEEEEE <snoopy dance> <P>"I have to go, I'm really busy"<P>ah.. your busy huh?<P>"Yes"<P>So what are you wearing today?<P>"nothing"<P>Damn gurl.. don't do that to me.<P>"giggle"<P>really what are you wearing today?<P>"nothing... (giggle) I cant say"<P>oh..I told you not to tell me that <P>"giggle, well call me at 5:00"<P>Okay.. love you .. bye.<P>"bye"<P>*****<P>I'm not making plans on this yet.. but its good to see her.. making some tugboat manuevers my way.. The only part I'm worried about this is the "friends" part.. I dont know if that is worth banking this on..<P>Hypothetically, If I was banking this today.. and she was moving in tomorrow.. would any of you let your WS move back in on the grounds of friendship alone?<P>eek.. that's scary..<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P><B>Husband2You</B><BR>*****<BR><I>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···</I><P>· E-mail: <B> husband2you@petroleum.org </B> · ICQ: <B><A HREF="http://wwp.icq.com/1206499" TARGET=_blank>1206499</A></B> · Formerly: <B>E m p t y</B> ·<p>[This message has been edited by Husband2you (edited September 05, 2001).]

H2Y, <P>I so happy for you that you have a ray of sunshine in all this mess. I think it would be a prime time to plan A your w even if it were just as friends. I should really check out more of your story. I've kind of shyed away do to the fact of my story causing triggers to go off in you. If you want to send me an e-mail you can at knightmare59@excite.com<P>anyways, God bless and happy Aing<BR>knight

That is great news. I think in your situation I would bring her back as a "friend". She doesn't want to come back as a friend, and I think you know that. If she wants to come back, she wants to see if it will work, and as hard as you've been working, it will. Also, the OM is abusive to your W and children. So, Yes for both the W and the children, get them away from the abuse.<P>Does she want you to stay and her move to you, or the other way around? I think her moving to you would be best, to get away from OM. And, as you said, don't get your hopes up, other than this does sound like a turning point.

H2Y that's great news! I think she's testing the waters with the friends remark thats okay though gives you time to plan A. I'm so very happy for you. All the best I'll be praying for you. Take care. Be careful with that snoopy dance don't want ya to hurt yourself before she gets home. ha ha.D:<BR>cybil

That really does sound VERY promising H2Y! Good stuff!!<P>I agree that in your situation (more to the point, your W's situation with the OM) it would be a good move to move in together, even if as 'just friends'.<P>I know for me, I never considered that to be an option (although H wanted to live in the basement, pay rent, etc). But I couldn't handle knowing he would be going out with whomever he damn well pleased and I would have no say in the matter. I told him that should he come to live here, it would be as my HUSBAND, NOT a roommate. But his safety was never in jeopardy.<P>Karen<BR>