Okay..<P>In the inviting thread I made on August 30th<P>Topic: If your L U R K I N G . . . Its OKAY... Please read!<BR>( <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/012174.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/012174.html</A> )<P>I posted I asked the lurkers to come out and say hello. I knew that there were going to be many people say hi.. and there are probably a couple of dozen more still lurking. But for now.. I'm cutting and pasting the New Members situation here.. for help from the MBer's.<P>Although I am strong and determined to help each and everyone of these new people.. I can't do it all on my own.<P>Some of us have the capability to 'coach' these new people for a few days to get them into the MB spirit. I am calling on all of you MBers for help.<P>I titled this: New Memeber: SusanSusan [Original Post] Coaching Request.<P>Title denotes that this is a new member.<BR>Their name<BR>their original post quoted<BR>and <BR>a coaching request from the OT (Ole Time) Members.<P>So this is where you OT members come in. I suggesting a new process here.. <P><BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>Hello everyone,<BR>Thank you for the nice invitation to de-lurk. <P>I've been sitting here on the sidelines for a couple of months now, but wasn't sure when/if I should wander in and introduce myself. I sincerely appreciate the welcoming nudge.<P>I have been inspired a great deal by so many of you. Please know that you have helped me through many a sad and lonely night. My H's betrayal has been the deepest pain I have ever felt in my life and by coming here I have learned that I will eventually survive. <P>I have followed several of your stories, and I am sad to realize that my experience is not so unique. Sad because it hurts to know that so many people are out there suffering needlessly. Whoever coined the phrase, "Life is a *****", really knew what they were talking about.<P>Anyway.... thanks again. I will post more later.<P><BR>~SusanSusan~<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>So who is going start off Coaching this New Member?<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P><B>Husband2You</B><BR>*****<BR><I>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···</I><P>· E-mail: <B> husband2you@petroleum.org </B> · ICQ: <B><A HREF="http://wwp.icq.com/1206499" TARGET=_blank>1206499</A></B> · Formerly: <B>E m p t y</B> ·

SS......I'm not an ol' timer insofar as seniority on these MB forums, but I can quickly identify with your pain. I, too, am a BS and although my H wants to work on our marriage, he cannot begin to comprehend the depth of the hurt that he's encroached into my life. Although I'm not an authority on the MB principals, I encourage you to express your feelings about being a BS. And there is no better place to do this than on these forum at the MB internet site. I along with numerous others are more than willing to listen and interject with unbiased (for the most post....LOL) opinions and suggestions. And, hopefully, solutions.<P>Hope to hear from you soon..... <P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B><p>[This message has been edited by GeezLouise (edited September 05, 2001).]

Hi Susan,<BR>Well, life can be a b****, then we DIE and go to heaven! Welcome to Marriage Builders.<P>You can read member profiles and post your own here:<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Profiles in (Just Found Out)</A>

Thanks, everyone. Your kindness brought tears to my eyes, yet at the same time made me smile (not many smiles in my world these days).<P>I just wanted to say hello. I am currently dealing with sick elderly parents so I have no extra computer time these days. However, I will be checking in whenever I can, and posting more later.<P>I am basically a shy person, so I especially appreciate the invitation to participate in your group. When I come here and read the postings, I am amazed at the honesty and support the members offer each other. This is a very special board.<P>Thanks again, and I'll be back soon.<P>------------------<BR>"Mother, Mother Ocean, I have heard you call" -- <Jimmy Buffett>

Sad though it may seem, I don't think our pain was necessarily needless or unecessary. I don't think I would have ever got around to addressing my marital problems without it. Pain is a great motivator. <P>Pain is an element of birth. Maybe it's necessary for rebirth, as well. <P>Wow, I just realized that!!!<P>Jeffers<BR>