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Hi Melody
I value my Wife very much as she is the rock in this marriage and always has been throughout. I am giving my Wife the love and attention she deserves.
I know I have a long way to go to regain her trust. We keep taking one step forward then three steps back. I will take your advise above and hope it will lead to a much better
relationship.
We keep drifting back to past instead of the present and future only.
I know it is very difficult for my Wife to let things go as I keep arguing with her. Today we had a massive argument and I put my Wife through hell and said things which I know
hurt her feelings terribly and I know I should have been more thoughtful and understanding. I am very sorry I said the things that hurt her and I beg her forgiveness.
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Today we had a massive argument and I put my Wife through hell and said things which I know
hurt her feelings terribly and I know I should have been more thoughtful and understanding. I am very sorry I said the things that hurt her and I beg her forgiveness. Break a glass. Say sorry to the glass. Does the glass heal? Telling you are sorry isn't enough. Don't break the glass. Stop saying hurtful things.
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In addition to having multiple affairs, you are having angry outbursts towards your wife and continuing to hurt her. What is your plan to STOP doing this?
I don�t see any reason why your wife should stay in this marriage right now. You have had a string of affairs and continue to be dishonest about them, and you are following that up by repeatedly telling us that you lost your temper and said things with the specific reason to hurt her. Why do you think your wife should stay in this marriage?
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what do you classify as multiple affairs?
Because she still cares for me in her own way.
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what do you classify as multiple affairs? More than one!  How many people did you expose to? Who are those people? What was their reaction? ....because you sound very cavalier for someone who has just shocked and horrified everyone they care about..
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Because she still cares for me in her own way. I would care if I had a recurring bomb in my home. I would care about that bomb a lot. I would tiptoe and make it the very centre of my existence. Until I finally got rid of it.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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