Hm that's very interesting. I will give that a look. I want to learn much more about these things. It's funny that you mention that though because we agreed with each other before we broke up that we weren't going to have sex with anyone else. It's too late for us not to have sex before marriage but you said something I relate to. I think that in our situation I'm the one that sex means more to in the context that you are talking about. She's wanted to separate before but she didn't because she knew that depending on what she did with others, it would change my opinion of her and she wouldn't be able to come back to me. I can't lie that's true but that's one of my emotions I need to get a handle on more. She is way more casual about it than I am. She's actually used that against me recently. I kind of exploded and I judged her actions because I thought it was wrong of her to hang out with a guy she barely knows that already ditched her once on a date instead of me who has made her breakfast, dinner, and is working his hardest to make her happy. I may or may not have a point but I said it in a disrespectful way and I apologized because it was wrong. She then told me that I better not mess with her or else she will have sex with someone. She outright threatened me with something she knows I'm very vulnerable about and told her all my feelings about. Honestly that is one of if not the most hurtful things she's ever said to me. You know what I did? I got up early the next morning to bring her the phone case she left in my car and brought her breakfast. I even helped her clean her house a little. I know that probably looks bad BUT I did it on my own, she didn't ask me for any of it. I wanted to show her how much I care and how hard I'm trying. But I will never tell her that because when I do she thinks I'm throwing it in her face. Then later that day is when she said we should spend time apart.

I got her to at least chat with me about everything very soon. Any tips on how to make her see that I don't have a crush on my coworker? I mean I don't. I don't need to lie about it but she has a hard time believing me sometimes. She thinks I'm only saying I don't like her so that we can get back together

Thank you so very much to everyone. From the bottoms of my heart. It feels so good to talk about this finally