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My W has been in a financial bind since her ordeal last week. She is behind on everything. She has come to me for help. I have gotten her money to help. I want to take care of her, but dont want to be used.<P><P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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Need more info... <P>How much we talkin' about?<P>What does she need it for? Who's she spending it on??<P>By the by... if you feel used, you usually are... don't do anything that makes you feel that way. If she <B>honestly</B> needs it, give it to her. Not just to bail her out because she did stupid things with the money she had.<P>So, whacha think??? <P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
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My mom makes me feel used. She says she need it for rent, car note. In the past 2 weeks I gave her the money for her thing,$300 and yesterday I gave her$340 for the rest of her rent. she says she still behind on car notes. I know its hard with 2 kids. I just want to help her. I really dont ask questions.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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It's YOUR money, and I'd ask questions. <P>You're too nice. Is that possible?? <P>Yes, two kids are expensive... how old are they? <BR><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
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tehy are 3yrs and 4months. I know its my money. and I would give it all to not see her in a bind, <P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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I know... didn't mean to imply otherwise, but you do have a right to know where it's going. Your kids are very young, somewhat expensive, but not like it will be later. <P>How is your mother involved?<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
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I got her involved. we never really had a relation ship until about 8yrs ago. She is in AA. I talk to her about every thing.<P>I just tried the W again. I have tried to call to many times. she got a little frustrated. She said give her a minute and she will call me back. I keep screwing up.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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No, not screwing up... trying to help... you need to be easier on yourself. You're tying to save your life here.<P>Listen to yourself, not mom, not W, <B>you</B>. Do what your heart says. <P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
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My heart says: I love her, and want to be with her. right now she wont let me in.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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