When we first got married age was not an issue now she treats me like a child I work for the marines we just bought a house she stays home with our child we have no debt but she never happy and she does'nt trust me she always accuses me of having an affair but I havent and would'nt she taks down to me she be littles me even in front of friends when I try to take a stand she gets upset like how dare i talk to her that way. It's been 3 yrs of this now and I'm having a hell of a time trying to find that love that love that was so clearly thier in front of me when all I saw was our future a happy one in her eye's and when she walked by one year of bliss 3 of dreading coming home to the prevebiale little woman..any advice out thier...

Space, I can related to everything you are saying, but I am not convinced it's only the age difference that is the cause of all of it. He being older may be the cause of her thinking you might be cheating b/c she probably feels like you might choose someone younger than she. Her treating you like a child, well most women have the tendency to "mother" their husbands sometimes it's just a bnurturing thing but it doesn't make it right. She should talk down to you.....<P>I am currently going through the same thing with my fiance. He puts me down in front of other people and then when I stand up for myself he is totally blown away that I would talk to him that way in public. He does not understand that sometimes things are better left unsaid. Usually when people act this way they are insecure with themselves. Have you tried telling her exactly how you feel? Have you told her that she is hurting you when she talks down to you like that? I would have to say start there....talk about it. <P>I certainly can feel your pain of someone talking like that to you....I have just recently discussed this with him and he didn't want to hear it. I hope you have beeter luck. But remember, communication is one of the keys to a successful marriage.<BR>Good luck to you.<BR>