Each time my husband has left me for another woman, he keeps in touch long-distance. He promises to do better and I forgive him, the first time I make a decision different from what he wants done--I'm on his list.<P>His rationale is since I don't agree with what he wants done then he's going to do what he wants regardless of how I feel about.<P>I told him I don't like how he keeps late night hours. He said it is not because I want him to respect me. He believes it is because I want him to obey me.<P>So rather than build my trust in him, he said he wants to "feel his manhood."<P>Why won't he just divorce me and stay away? I find it hard to believe it's because he loves me.<P>[This message has been edited by AGoodPhrend (edited July 16, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by AGoodPhrend (edited July 16, 2000).]