I sorry this is gonna be a hard day for you....I just had my birthday on Sunday and didn't think it was going to be any big deal (never was in the past). I had an AWFUL day...it really bummed me out....my H totally ignored it...no call, no card, no nothing!! In the next 3 months I will have to deal with both our 12th anniversary and the 1-year anniversary of D-day....I just dread it and wonder how I'm gonna get thru it.<P>I've put it on my calendar to pray for you that day...I wish there was something we all could say to make it easier. Just try to eat well (fruit, vegies), get plenty of rest prior to, make an appointment with your counselor for that day, read your Bible, go to a funny movie with a friend than night, allow yourself to feel bad if you need to, AND.....SPECIFICALLY ASK your co-workers to support you that day (with hugs, with funny e-mails, etc)......who cares if they just did it!....we are human beings and if we cannot support each other when we need it, then all is lost. Soak that support up. There will be a time in the future when you can pay it back. If you need strength.....get it from your friends. I know this isn't easy and it feels like you are ALWAYS needing strength right now, but when you need it, you need it. Nobody can put a time-limit or support-limit on what or how you need to deal with this. It's extremely hard for me to ask friends for help....so I'm gonna have to eat crow (take my own advice) in a about a month. <P>I think the flowers and note are a great idea. Be proud of yourself for thinking good thoughts about her and doing exactly what's in your heart to do. Give the results to God...lay them at His feet and know that you are still acting in a loving way.<P>God bless you and my heart goes out to you. Come back here each day and let us help you too.<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<P>PS Tigger, you're on the calendar for Saturday.....