Husband finally left after us trying recovery for 5 months, everything was going fine untill he saw her again and it started up again. He has admitted that he loves us both and wants to be with us both. Ain't that a hoot. He said he tried to stay away but he couldn't. For the last 2 weeks he has been going back and forth and I have had it. He says that he know that I'm the best thing that has happen to him, but that dosen't stop him from wanting to be with her. Our kids found out the worst way when the other woman came over and caused a scene. So then I had to explain to my children. He says just to leave him because he know he is not good for either one of us. He says he knows that being with her won't work out but he gone anyway. He went tonight, after he called her and he got all moody so he left because he knew that she was doing something and he couldn't put his finger on it. I will be moving to atlanta in 3 months I just pray that I can get through these months especially with the holiday's coming. My heart is torn into little pieces. My mother says to let him go and do what he wants, because one day he's going to wake up are realize just what he threw away. But part of me still wants to be with him. Is that crazy or what.<P>------------------<BR>

It is definitely crazy but sound so familiar. You are in good company for support. And yes I think I would like to be able to let my H go but I still love him and want him back so you aren't crazy. I know the holidays will be hard. How old are your children? You have come to the right place to help you get through the next three months and after that if you need us. Vent here often and ask quetions. We are all trying to deal with this craziness and we all want our spouses back Even though others tell us to let them go. I do agree with your mother on one thing though, he will one day wake up and realize what he has done, just hope it isn't too late. <P>------------------<BR>di<P>

hello neicy, i am so sorry for you. Does not sound like you had many options...he is just lost. YOu are a very strong person to have watched for the last few weeks as he crumbled. You can gain some comfort in knowing that you tried so hard, that you did everything possible to keep things together. Take some comfort in what you have learned thru the pain. Sometimes letting them go is what it takes? I am not sure. It is very nice that you can talk to your mom, she sounds wise. Do take care of yourself and your kids, they need mom right now. (((hugs)))

thank you both, I'm sure I will survive. I'm still hoping that before I leave for atlana he will change his mind and come with us. A lot can happen in 3 months. Just wishful thinking huh?

{{{{{{{{{{Neicy}}}}}}}}}}<P>I feel so sorry for you...<P>Stay here with us when your down...<BR>Post here when you're feeling lonely...<P>The insidious withdrawal was hurting both of you... and now it dragged him back to the OW. Keep strong...<P>We'll be here for you... <P>Jim<BR>