I feel like I'm being pulled into quicksand. It seemds that the harder I try to hold my marriage together the worse it becomes. I'm feeling like it's not worth it anymore. My motive for staying right now is that I don't want to destroy my son's life, (he is almost 4). I also still have feelings for my H I just don't want to live with him anymore, I don't want to ruin his life and hurt him either I just don't want to be married to him anymore.<BR>Is there hope??????????

Of course there is hope. ALL things are possible with God. Let go and Let God. He is the only one that can save our marriages, we can't. We are only standing in the way and until we let go, He can't do what He needs to do. God needs to make changes in us and then our spouses. Unfortunately things didn't happen over night, so it will take time to get it all together again, and it will happen, but in God's timing not ours.

Please don't leave your husband. You sound like what my wife was thinking when she started all our divorce business 5 months ago. She had many issues but she sure didn't share them with me. Why??????<BR>I only know that if she had shared her issues with me I sure would have done something about it. Please give your husband a chance, your marriage vows were meant to last a lifetime. If you believe what God says you have no choice but to stay in there especially if love him. Even if you didn't love him you would have no choice but to stay but stay, stay, stay. Go to counseling make things better. You must be a young woman having a four year old child, use this situation in your marriage and life to get closer to God and your life can be greater than ever living with the man love with you in close fellowship with God. <BR>Come on benjimom do the right thing!