Hi,<p>I've been lucky enough to have a wonderful evening with my wife recently. I took her to an amazing / expensive restaurant after she got a job after not working for nearly 11 months.<p>It's wierd ... it seems to take time each time we meet to break the ice again. I don't quite understand it but it seems like it takes at least an hour or two for her to start relaxing and opening up. Or maybe it's me thats not opening up, i'm not sure. Well, anyway after the meal she thanked me for a wonderful evening, that let her forget all her problems and have a good time for three hours. Just a big hug from her when I dropped her off at the OM's ... i've managed to teach myself to expect nothing and to just have a good time. Things seem to go so much better that way, maybe i'm learning to trust God more and more that things will work in his schedule. It's still tough though driving off ... when you really want the night to go on forever.<p>I got a card from my wife the next day saying what a special person I am. The card contained had stuff printed that said things like "your'e treasured and celebrated and quietly thanked" and "thank you for all the smiles you've given me". My wife just wrote a short note at the end saying that this card said everything she wanted to say. I'm not sure what it really means, and what I should think about it ... maybe i should just smile knowing that she's noticed some of my efforts! <p>I can't help just thinking like everythings fixed and she's coming home when nice things happen. I guess it just confuses me as to what i should be doing, and whether I should be telling her to come home. I probably should just spend more time praying, and less time worring about such things.<p>I just ask for your prayers right now. Sometimes I feel very low and depressed ... I just wish there was going to be someone there when i go home. I think her fog sometimes starts creeping into my sunlight and confuses my life!<p>I do trust God that he will restore my marriage, but I think that the fact that she seems lifeless and fed up when I ask her what she has been doing gives me a sense of hope. I think if she was always happy and enjoying life it would/will be much harder to trust that God is working!<p>I'm meeting with me friend from churches father tomorrow. His wife is having an EA with someone right now ... so he really needs someone to talk to. Please pray for this situation as he is not a Christian and this would be a great witnessing opportunity! Praise God for this opportunity!<p>I do try to remember all of you in my prayers ... so remember there could be a Brit praying for your situation when you least expect it!!<p>Take care everyone, my prayers are with you.<p>Plec.

Plec---<p>Praise report? No, I think that is an all out MIRACLE! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] Do you think she would've done that a few months back? I know when God started working in my H life, miracles started happening everyday! He comes home more often, says nice things, etc....<p>I know The Lord is working in your wife and even in you! Keep your faith. I believe it is only a matter of time for you both now----keep doing what you are doing. It is working, and know that someone in Texas is praying for you, too!!<p>Thanks for your encouraging post---let us know what else is going on!<p>Hugs to you,
Krystal

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by plecostomous:
[QB]It's wierd ... it seems to take time each time we meet to break the ice again. [/b]<hr></blockquote>
I noticed this too! It's kinda "weird" how that works, here we are with our most intimate partner, and we have to "size each other up" and get "comfortable" being with them in order to relax. Whoever came up with the analogy that it's like "dating" all over again was RIGHT ON!!

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I got a card from my wife the next day saying what a special person I am.
I probably should just spend more time praying, and less time worring about such things. <hr></blockquote><p>Plec,
This truly IS a miracle! PRAISE OUR DEAR LORD for His faithfulness to us. It's just so great to spend time with our WS's, again, isn't it? I sometimes think that God really CAN use this situation in some strange way, to make us realize (me, anyway) how much I had been neglecting my poor H (I know, I know, I WAS neglected, too!). Ducking now.....<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I do trust God that he will restore my marriage, but I think that the fact that she seems lifeless and fed up when I ask her what she has been doing gives me a sense of hope. I think if she was always happy and enjoying life it would/will be much harder to trust that God is working!<hr></blockquote>
Waaal, my WH (seems to be) happy about some aspects of his life now, so I understand what you are saying. I sometimes think he's just putting on a "face" to try to make me believe he's happy for the decisions he's made so far, because when he TALKS, I can hear discontent with almost every aspect of his life, so I don't go on his "happy face" at all! It sounds like your W is a lot more honest with you. I DO have to trust that God is working, and NOT look at his outer countenance. I HAVE to trust God only.<p>It's true, what FaithnHim said, about the miracles! These ARE miracles! ANd it's all because of your faithfulness in prayer. KEEP IT UP!! God is doing what He does, ANSWERING PRAYER IN RESPONSE TO OUR FAITH.<p>P.S. Read my post from yesterday about "What I learned"....it's short (unlike me, usually!), but really very neat!<p>And remember to PUSH (Read the post, you'll understand this) [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
Lupo