My H gave me some hopes which I thought he would leave his girlfriend and reconcile. He said recently, 1. I am so miserable now. 2. I miss the family. 3. I realize that wife and kids are important. 4. I want to get right with God. 5. I want to do what is right. 6. My relationship with OW not working because I don't like her kids and they don't like me 6. I will go see a counciller. I was getting excited and when I spoke to his councellor, he told me that my H has moved on and doesnt want to reconcile. I was crushed, then my H told me that he loved the OW. I wanted to die at that moment. The pain is so great that many times I have no will to live and lose any hope for happiness. My H was weeping on the phone yesterday when I told him that our son suggested from what his dad told him why he couldnt come home that if I try to get along with my H and keep the house nice, then daddy will come home. I told my H that I loved him and he said, "I know you do". It has been over 1.5 years separated, is there any hope? I see the councillor Monday for first time. Please pray. If anyone in similiar situation would like a prayer partner, would love that. I know I am not the only one. Thank you for any prayers!

Movingforward, you need to seek God and His peace with all your heart first. We do not wrestle againts flesh and blood , but againts principalities,againts powers, againts dark rulers of this world (demonic forces). Only the peace of God will get you thru this. Your H has been taken captive by the enemy and his actions will be according to where the enemy drags his soul. The enemy is trying to do the same to you by getting you to rely on your feelings and is ripping you apart. I speak from 4 years of experience and seperation. I almost didnt make it more than once. Stop trusting in your H's words and actions and start trusting in the Lord. Until the Lord compleatly humbles your H, he will only half heartedly try to get back to you. He already is trying, but in his own strenth.
Right now the Lord wants to heal you and draw yyou closer to Him. Keep your focus there and trust in Gods mercy and love. Im still there, where you are. I know the struggle and the hopes up and shattered all to well.
Dear Lord, I lift my sister MF up to you that you would give her rest from her trials and peace in her heart that only you can give. I pray for encouragnent in her heart that you are in fact in control of her entire situation and life. Teach us oh Lord to continuse to trust in your love and mercy when we cant see any. Help us in our weakness, when we rely on our feelings instead of the truth.
In Jesus name, AMEN

I just wanted to tell you I read your post and I prayed.
My heart hurts for you and your children, and I believe God will work in your lives and bless you in a wonderful way.
I have never been where you are, so I cannot offer any advice in that way. But I do know God can take a impossible situation and turn it completely around.
"We may be in the desert of testing, but thank GodIt is an open book test!!"
I love that quote and it has made me smile while pointing out something important to remember in the last year.
With love and prayers! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Wow, mommy2three:
THAT's an AWESOME quote!!! Thanks!<p>"We may be in the desert of testing, but thank GodIt is an open book test!!"<p> I want to remember it........<p>Moving Forward,
What your WH is saying is known as "Waffling" - he's "fence-sitting" and confused. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT believe a WORD he's saying!!! My H has been gone (living w/ow) exactly one year today [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] so I am feeling down today, but encouraged by your stand. That should encourage YOU!!<p>Only pray, believe, trust God, claim the promises that God HATES divorce and wants to restore what the Locusts have stolen, and you will be fine.<p>God loves us, He loves our spouses (even tho they are in total sin right now), and He wants to bring the M back together. Believe it, pray for it, PRAISE HIM for working it all out, and keep looking up!!<p>I would love to pray for you and your M. Would you like my email addy?<p>May God Bless you.

Saying a little prayer for everyone on this thread tonight.

Movingforward<p>I agree with what lostpup was telling you. First and formost you are created in GOd's image and you are part of his greatest creation. Remember this God doesn't grow week, He doesn't cheat and no lies come from Him. God is in control and know each person and every letter of each person's story. Let the Lord pull you in close to Him embrace Him and he will encourage you and keep you strong. <p>I know because my wife has been away from me for almost 8 months. She told me she didn't love me any more back in August of 2001. My heart was torn to shreads. Last week a friend called me to confirm that (my wife confided in this friend) my wife slept with another man. I have been struggling to stay close to Jesus through this whole trauma. But when I heard that I was seriously hurt, sad, and anger all in a few moments. I even drew up divorse papers this week. <p>Well I spent 2 hours Friday crying, reading and praying at church for guidence. The Lord laid on my heart to not turn in the papers to the attroney to be served. It was heavy on my heart to be patient and forgiving. Now I'm thinking with God's perspective and not my emoitions. The Lord gave me peace in waiting for my wife. Read in the Bible the book of Hosea. My wife is Gomer just like your husband. But God restores marriages everytime. <p>I pray that you will be given strenght and be encouraged by God's eternal love for us. If you need a prayer partner I will be happy to do that because I need much prayer also.

Thank you "Lost Pup, Mommy 2Three,lupolady, Bluechaines, & Agoodcry". Your prayers are so inspirational, a special gift with a lot of wisdom. I know I need to get absorbed in the word of God, my mind tells me the promises of God but sometimes my emotions take over. I am trying to put the full armor of God on and I do feel the attack of the enemy.(more than ever).
You know, I was never good in open book tests but at least I know the Word of God has all the answers and he will direct my paths. I am feeling much better today so I know your prayers are working. I am going to print this out to have with me and will pray for each of you also. I will read the book of Hosea too. You may reach me at kimytav@juno.com Thankyou again, I feel so blessed today... You are in my prayers, agoodcry, I truly understand your pain. God Bless you, Kim...

Dear MF, The book of Hosea is one of my favorites. Sometimes I feel like the modern day Hosea. The names have changed but for me its the same story. When its time, God will tell you its time. It wont be your feelings and it wont be your WH's actions. He will have fake repentances, and it will be very hard to tell the difference. Allow the The Lords spirit to dicern that for you when the time comes. It is very important. I learned the hard way about W coming back when it wasnt in Gods time. This is all In His hands and God will get glory. Trust in His mercy and timing.
Mark

I will pray for God to give you strength. I know its hard right now and nothing I say will take the pain away. But there is a rainbow at the end of this strom. Trust me. I have been there not once but twice now. Keep your head up high, love yourself, men like that dont realize how good they have it.ITS HIS LOSS.

Dear MovingForward<p>Trust in God and your friends here and when the storm clears, and it sounds like it's a bad storm with rough waters, the sun will surely shine for you. Hold your head up and be strong. I know it is easier said than done.<p>Praying for you