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How long did it take for you to see the pain your spouse was in? My ex-H seems to feel nothing but anger and coldness toward me. I only discovered the affair seven months ago. Is there any hope he will someday feel guilt and remorse instead of the hatred he seems to feel now? Can a person go forever and never look back? He normally is a very sensitive person.<P>AD
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It has been said to me that the anger and hatred is from guilt. I hope this is true cause that is what my w does to me also.<P>I dont know if they will ever look back and see what could have been or look foward to see what can be.<P>I pray each night that she will someday stop and take a look around.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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Yes, AD, I believe that Dr Brown is correct. I have read that there is a direct inverse relationship between anger & guilt. The more anger you feel (justified or not), the less guilt you feel for doing what you did. It's your mind's way of rationalizing what you did. Sounds like your H hasn't or isn't able to come to terms with what he did.
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Sidney, I'm no Dr. by no means. just an old construction worker.( wish I made their money though)those are the firet letter of mine, my W and oldest son's names<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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