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I am looking for someone to take over for the Wed Restoration posting. I am taking a break from this site (for the most part). I will check in on Wed and continue praying and fasting, but I will not be posting much.

I have let this site take up too much time at work; I got burned. Anyone interested, I'll tell the story.

I have found myself being on this site when I come home, instead of spending q-time with my children (since on earth that is ALL I have for now).

It has also taken away from my time in Bible and prayer. I get home at 4:30-5:00. W leaves at 5:00 for work. Kids go to bed at 8:30. Leaves a half hour because W comes home at 9:15 (no time for me to read, etc.

My D was caught in two lies this week by W and I. I know this is her crying out, but W thinks she needs counseling, I agree. W says nooone likes a lier. I told D that I lied to Mommy and that made what I did worse. I know that D is crying out for attention because she wants Mommy and Daddy to be together. Right now this is not the Father's Will (please don't tell me otherwise). W does not see that this is prob w/D.

Yesterday, mtg for 1st Communion. I relayed all the probs w/the nun who was there. She knew a lot from prev conversation. She told me D does not look happy in class. This hurt, but I understood.

Now, those who want to remain in contact with me, you have my email and phone number. I will check in on the site on Wed, and rarely during the week. Am I crying out for attention or help, like my D, ABSOLUTELY!

I will cehcking out a spiritual director at my church in the next week or so. I need answers and support. I have noone I can talk (not chat or email or post) with when my heart is hurting. I know I can talk to God, and I occassionally need verbal feedback.

Ex: Had mtg w/boss over my duties. I rec'd a rude email via my boss from my supervisor. I arranged for a mtg yesterday to discuss my job. Before going in I said the Litany of Humility (see other post). So I was humble and took a lot of cr*p from these two egomaniacs. I can't tell my W about, she doesn't want to hear about my day, or anything. But I am suppose to be here to listen to her. OK.

I have given up on the M (from what I can do, not what God can do). I have even told God, inflict me with something (wrong phrasing), but put something upon me for asking for my W to be saved. Like Jacob with his hip. Ex: give me a limp, whatever. I am willing to give up a physical part of myself to save my W, my F, and my M. paraph "Whatever greater sign of love then to give up one's life for his friend...W, and F.

Whoever takes the Wed post over, I will show you how I add the links, etc. (if you don't know how and are intereseted in doing it). Just send me an email and I will send you my phone number and I can wlak you through it). That's up to whoever takes this over.

AGAIN! I am not giving up on this site or the friends (my beloved borthers and sisters in Christ). I hadned the ministry of Wed Restoration to someone else so I can BUILD MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. So I can further my relationship with my beautiful children (loving them, disciplining them, sharing my faith with them).

I want to thank those of you who SAVED MY LIFE back in July. There are truly are angels in this world.

Love and Peace in Christ,
tryingTOsaveMYmarraige.....definitely saving my soul and my children's. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am looking for a Catholic atty for the divorce <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> .

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Trying,

My prayers are with you as you take care of the responsibilities that God has given you. Continue to stand on your knees in prayer. We will miss your encouraging words. Know that we will continue to pray with you for the recovery and healing of your marriage.

I have backed off of my time here onthe boards too. It can be very consuming and take away from the other important matters in our life.

Just remember God does have a plan! He has the key to unlock everyone's heart including your wife's. Trust that he is moving behind the scenes like a Master Chess Player. He's never lost a match, so be encouraged. God sees your pain and knows EXACTLY where you are. He will see you through and you will look back in a while and see how he's carried you to a new place in him and in your personal life.

Again be encouraged and don't become weary in well doing! IT'S NOT A WASTE OF TIME.

Take care of yourself and those angels on loan from God! Until next time...

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Trying:

Thank you for all your time, effort, and love, that you have put into manning this site.

You are a precious brother in the Lord and OHIT and I wish you all God's best.

I think what you are doing is good. I think there comes a time when anything, however "good" it can be, can become unbalanced.

I believe if you have young children activities that can take you away from them are just not wise.

As I don't have children at home anymore I have much more "me" time than I did when I had them.

I can remember tho a time when my kids were at home and I did spend WAAAY too much time on the net and I can tell you that I regret that now.

Please continue to do the right thing and follow your heart.

I would suggest that you set up a regular time to go read MB stuff and maybe post here and there (something like once a week or once every day or so, late at night) and then stick to that.

If you don't set up some sort routine that way you might end up sabotaging you best attempts.

The net (even MB) is totally addictive and even though I believe you have been doing good things here, you are still probably addicted and need to treat it that way.

Many will disagree with me here but that is ok with me, I KNOW what I am talking about.

As you know Trying, addictions must be broken by replacing them with positive things.

Please consider what I said about setting up a routine and sticking to it. You WILL miss it here and you will feel like continually "checking" so if set up times that you have set apart to be able to do that (balanced) then you will be apt to be an success.
I cannot tell you how many people I have heard say buybye and then only to return the next week and be here as much or more.

Again tho, thank you for your faithfulness to post and your genuine concern for others.

I think God is trying to move you up and move you on into real life friendships and a closer relationship with your precious children and I am glad you are listening.

I think emailing with some of the men from this site is also an excellent way to keep contact but yet keep it all in check.

As far as someone taking over your job I am wondering if you would really want anyone to do that?

I wonder if it IS wisdom for someone to come to this site and have to post as much as you did ....

Just being honest here Brother .... anyone can step in now and disagree. Personally I don't see taking this on with that much dedication as something that is healthy.

I know that previous to you Cajunky ..(is that the name) took this on and I remember from my reading and "lurking" days.

Perhaps he will come out of hiding to comment on these things and offer some reasonable counsel this way ....???

God Bless Brother, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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I will also continue to pray for you. Your support and candid contributions have helped me. Our life on earth is a journey and the direction can change, don't forget that God is in charge and following His direction is full of abundant blessings. I don't know what kind of commute you have to work. I have a long one into the city (Chicago) I've been listening to Chritian audio books they don't interrupt my responsibilities to, or time with my daughter.
God loves you and your sister in Christ love you too

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TTSMM,
Thank you for being there to support me as I struggled! God is real and alive and I know that He will guide you and nurture you as He as done for me! Prayers do get answered and miracles do happen! Please allow yourself to be humbled and allow God to work in your life. I tried to control my life by myself but I found that it is futile to do it alone without God's help.
I love you man! You can do it!

Your brother in Christ Jesus
Mr.Miew

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TTSMM,

God Bless. You will be in my prayers.

Unfortunately I would not be able to take over - much as I would love to - for similar reasons. Time at work is meant for working, and I face dismissal if I use the internet for non-business purposes. Time at home, right now, needs to be spent with my W, and trying to heal the rift I created in our marriage.

Richard


Lord,
We ask your blessing on all those who pray regularly for their own and others marriages. May they continue to grow in your love.
Amen

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TTSMM,

Thank you so much for all you have contributed to this board. You are a mighty saint for the Lord! I pray that you will find peace in all this turmoil. We will keep you in our prayers and please stop in every now & again to let us know how you're doing.

God bless you.


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