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Hi, I don't normally come to this section, but it's about time I did!! I used to write a lot on the Ladies Bible Study section, but hardly anyone goes there anymore. Not that *I* was going there -- I stopped quite awhile ago myself. Anyway, some of my favorite people hang out here, and frankly I need the uplifting support of believers. I've been away from the things and people of God for too long.

I am a long-time Christian who has allowed bad churches, weak friends who *said* they had my best interests at heart but clearly did not, and my addictions (even to this blasted website!) to get in the way of my relationship with God.

I have WAAAAAAY too much guilt in my life, and although I've asked God to forgive me, I have a hard time forgiving myself.

After reading some threads here, I see I am not alone.

I, like so many of you it seems, just want some people to pray for me, and I want to pray for you. I think it might help to be thinking of others instead of all my problems.

I know God didn't give up on me - but it sure would be nice if He would skywrite what He wants me to do to make things right... I'm kinda dense about stuff. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Anyone interested in adding another into your fold?? Seems very gentle over here.

<small>[ February 24, 2004, 10:25 PM: Message edited by: new_beginning ]</small>

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Can you come in????????

YES!!! Please do! Welcome! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I post mostly on the EN board (Lord knows why? sometimes) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
but I agree, this board has a "gentleness" and "peaceful" feeling about it (if that is possible).

I am not sure I have heard your story Sheryl (or that you want to "share") but I am just happy to welcome you ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Blessings,
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Actually Diamnozzz, you and I *have* spoken over on the EN board - it was last summer. We agreed that neither of us belonged on there. How's that for a kicker? I think I tried to tell you that I've had to learn not to take things so personally, but don't listen to me, I still do! <embarassed grin>

My story is so darned long that you'd need coffee, a No-Doze, and about 40 hours to pour over the posts. I am an emotional cripple at times, and waaaaaaaaaaay too touchy - as in, I care way too much what others think (see above).

Thanks for the welcome... I'm sure we'll touch on stories as we go along. I won't bore you yet!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Ahhh .. k, I seem to remember that. I still post over there but I have to say that I am not as sensitve as I used to be. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I really used to take things to heart much more than I should have I guess. I am not like that so much anymore, but I also don't post nearly as often as I did.

You won't bore me!! I'll get the coffee going ...

We "might" just have some things in common .. never know!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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WELCOME!!! YAY!!!

I love you n_b, and I'm so glad to see you on an uplifting forum like this one! YES, of course you can join us <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

If you want, I could pray and ask God to skywrite for ya:

Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, Creator of skywriting and hitting us on the head with a fry pan. Thank you hitting us on the head with Your love when we are too busy to notice. Please smack n_b with a loving 2X4. Thank you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Your loving wild west lost twin,


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Hey D,

I just went over and read your answers to CJ's questions, and we do indeed have some things in common. Number one among them is a prior 20 year marriage and relatively quick second marriage.

I have a bit of a headache tonight, and it's getting late (12:20 am right now) so I really do need to log off and go to bed.

We will talk again soon, I hope. I suspect you're right - we have quite a bit to share with each other.

Have a nice night...

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CJCJCJCJCJCJCJCJCJCJCJ!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'm off to bed right now... but had to say HI before I logged off -- so HIHIHIHIHIHIHI.

By the by, I sent you an email last night - hope you got it!!!!!!

Love you tons, and thanks for that headsmackin' prayer! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Ok nite nite Sheryl .. sweet dreams sweetie.. we'll "chat" soon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

*edited to say* we are also both Canadians!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

DZZZ

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Thank you for the welcome, dear ladies. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

D, I'm only playing Canadian -- I'm a newly landed immigrant. I married a Canadian, and have spent the better part of three years trying to "get legal" -- just happened this past September! Wooooo Hoooo... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I look forward to visiting with you here on the gentle forum... I lurk and rarely write on EN's and Recovery. Every so often I go to Divorced. (I've been around MB a long time and went through my divorce and remarriage all the while.) Anyway, nice "meeting" you!!!!!!!

And CJ, well, what can I say? You've been a rock and a true friend. Love you!

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Hey, what's going on here? This is not an exclusive women's group. Where are all the men? Anyway, n_b, yes you are welcome on this forum. Everyone has a unique purpose on this forum and we would be missing something if you weren't here. We will work on this "not forgiving yourself" thing. When you want to say what it is, then we will work on healing it. But it is critical that you do. Yes, sometimes we have to make restitution, or ask forgiveness, but we get healed when we follow God's rules! And we want you healed. What good would it be to have an "ALMIGHTY GOD" and never be set free, or be delivered of the yoke that ties us down. That would make Him basically worthless, and fortunately that's not the case!!!
So again welcome! We look forward to learning from you!!!

God Bless
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Hey n_b,

Seem kind'a funny, welcoming someone with your tenure here; ...but what the hey. Welcome to our little slice of peace and sanity.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">origially quote by Dzzz
this board has a "gentleness" and "peaceful" feeling about it (if that is possible).</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is until sg gets here. ...and I see he's already shown up. n_b be careful around him. You just never know what he's going to do with a post. lol

Actually wanted to just say hi, thank you for joining us (I also wanted a reason to give sg a hard time). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Bless you greatly.

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Say it ain't so!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> There's GUYS in here? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks for the welcome boys!

Oh, singleguy, most of my darkside has been seen within my writings on this site. I also have a side with a fair bit of light and love - but it's often shadowed by my circumstances. My circumstances have come from choices that I've made, so therefore I have a bunch of guilt and self-loathing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I'm workin' on it... slow process though.

And S&C, yeah, I'm an oldie but goodie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> , but my reasons for being here are NOTHING like they were when I arrived nearly <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> 5 years ago <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . I've formed bonds here and this site is nothing like any other (in my opinion) so I keep getting sucked back in no matter HOW hard I try to leave. I've been giving this a lot of thought, and decided that perhaps I need the spiritual side of my life to be strengthened, and there is a place for that in MB, so why not reach out... that's why I'm here.

Again, thanks for the welcome!

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Hi -
Believe it or not, God's sky writtting all over the place for you (us). For me I just was to busy looking where I thought it should be. This link has literally answered prayers for me. Ususally not when I asked a question so now I mostly read and pray. I will be praying for you too.

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Good point, Ms. GF! Thank you too for the welcome.

I asked if I could come in, and looks like I'm in! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Hey, Sheryl.

Welcome..........
Errrrrr, what took you so long to find this place? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Love & Prayers,

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Thought I'd pop in and say hello to, Sheryl. Welcome to our family! {{{{{{{{{{{{{Sheryl}}}}}}}}}}} Hugs to you! This place does have a gentle and peaceful nature doesn't it? That's why I love it so much! God bless!

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Oh lovely Miss Sheryl!

Guess what? Yes, we have GUYS on this forum. Nice, godly guys...and one who is a part time proctologist. See if you can guess who (haha).

You know, today in the United States, the movie "The Passion of the Christ" was released. Several groups are saying it's very violent and making political maneuvers over the movie, but I think the main point of this movie is to remind us of what Jesus endured...what God was willing to GIVE for us in order to redeem us to him.

My precious lovely, Jesus did give beyond the ultimate sacrifice so that you could be considered the daughter of God and completely forgiven. This means that your position, in God's eyes, is His right hand chick. We are all at the feast, and you are the honored guest, sweetie! You are so precious and valuable.

So I'm praying for God to literally skywrite for ya, lady. Guess what He did today? I was driving from work to my ladies support group, and it was just becoming sunset. It was so pretty and I was enjoying it greatly as I drove along. Then I saw two long, twisting trails--which I thought at first were airplane contrails. They weren't. They were CLOUDS that had swirled like a slow-moving tornado horizontally across the sky and made swirls!

I think God was practicing His cursive. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />


I love you!


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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I think God was practicing His cursive. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">TOO FUNNY! This is hilarious! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face today, although I did have one already! Hope the day's going well for you!

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...cursive... that was beautiful, Miss CJ!

Oh,a nd by the way... I want you on this journey with me...

(((((CJ)))))

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Oh, and thank you Standing! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> You're a neat person, and you always sound so positive. Are you?? Wow, and just neato!


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