I got another letter via my attorney today regarding what she wants.

It seems she wants a sum of money to pay for her lawyer and is requesing this from me.

Well, I just paid our taxes, and by the way, she had very little withheld from her check.

I'm and ESTJ, so let's put down some "fuzzy" details. She made 18-19% of our total income.

Our total tax bill was $14K in Federal and State Taxes, not including FICA taxes.

I paid all but $218 of that figure.

I have asked her time and time again to come look at the books with me. She has a 2 year accounting degree, so if she thinks I'm cheating, she should be able to figure this out.

I really think this is the core of our marital problems.

She doesn't think I give to her, and I keep coming up with ways that I have given to her.

I'm upset, because all she wants from me is money and she is upset because I think that.

Well of course I think that. I don't get any affection, validation, etc.

I do have letters from her attorney asking for money, etc, asking for custody of our daughter.

I don't have any offers for her to help pay any of the bills.

So what am I supposed to think.

You know, I've been trying to see things her way, to understand her feelings. Well I'm feelinged out. I would like God to point out some of the facts to her. Perhaps then she wouldn't feel like she was getting the raw end of the deal.

I ultimately want to save the marriage, and I really think this could be a breakthrough. If she would just look at the information, she might understand why I'm stressed, didn't want to spend etc.

If my heart is wrong, then I do pray that God will show me. I'm sure I'm still too upset about this. I know she is not stupid, in fact she is very intelligent.

That's why I don't understand why she is doing what she is doing.

Please lift us both up in prayer. That both of our hearts are softened. That perhaps I can have an opportunity to present the facts in such a fashion that doesn't trample her feelings, and she can present her feelings in a fashion where I can truly be empathetic to her situation and where her heart is.

Thanks,

Tony

I found out today that the A was still going on, and she went to Easter Worship services with the OM and our daughter.

Not only that, but her parents welcomed him to their Easter Party.

I am so full of anger right now, but I do not want to sin.

Please pray for all of us, and even OM and his family.

Tony

Have patience, java.
His will will be done, in His time.

I will pray for you tonight.
Hang in there.