I recently found out my H is doing something I had suspected for a long time. It's pretty bad- you can read about it in my other threads, I don't have the strength to explain it again.

I have been praying about what I should do. I feel I should investigate further before I confront him- but I'm so scared of doing the wrong thing, of doing something that will hurt my marriage instead of (in the long run) helping it. I have been praying, and feel led in this direction, but am still not sure.

Also, I will need strength to know when and how to confront him as I find out more. I am a very nonconfrontational person, and i'm terrified of him leaving when I confront him, so this will be very difficult for me. I know it will be necessary to confront him with what he's doing, but i'm so scared to do that.

Please pray that God will direct me down the right path. Pray that he will show ME what I should do and give me strength to follow through with whatever that may be.

When we walk the path of fallen snow,
That covers the trail of where we go,
It's hard to see the road ahead,
When covered be the path we tread.

And even though our path is gone.
With heavy heart we must move on,
For even when life brings us pain
Yet still beneath a path remains.

Strength is hard to come by when our world feels like it is crashing down around us. Advice is only as good as how you perceive it to be no?

Look within yourself, find the strength to grow...Sometimes we must walk a path alone. Make yourself stronger, be independant, take care of yourself...Do not acknowledge the infedility, remember Ignorance is Bliss...When a person notices you are improving yourself they will find you more appealing and more often not, if they truely love you, they will do what is right.

Pemberly,

I don't like confrontation either.

Sometimes I leave it up to God to bring things out in the open in his timing.

If you do feel led to confront, do so in a very gentle way.

Father,

Thank you that you know what to do in this situation. Plase give Pemberly clear direction about whether to speak to her husband about this, and if possible, make a way that it can come out in the open without her needing to confront him.

If you want her to speak to him, give her the right words, and also prepare his heart to be open with her.

I pray that whatever is going on , you will also make a way for there to be healing in this situation, a way of resolving it when it does come out.

Shul

pemberley, the best thing i can say is to look at all the resources that are available to you, the bible, the forums, counseling, church, etc. but i would like to suggest one that you may not be aware of and that is Dr. James Dobson's focus on the family website family.org they have a resource page that has tons of things avaialble on just about every topic you can think of and speaks to all audiences (WS, BS, kids, etc.) they have books, workbooks, cd's, tapes, etc. i think if you went there you would find lots of topics applicable to your situation. i just read a book that i ordered called "living w/your husband's secret wars." it's worth a look for you.

don't know what state you are in but there is also the Bott Radio network which is a Christian radio network that has programs 24/7 (no music) by many speakers like Dr. Dobson, Dr. Charles STanley, Dr. David Jeremiah, etc. they have many topics finance, politics, kids, marriage, our walk w/God, etc. the bott radio network (started by [censored] bott) is not available everywhere but you can listen to it online. this is the only thing i listen to when i'm driving or at work. i don't listen to music anymore except at church. it keeps me where i need to be for the most part. of course i still have my down days but i don't know where i would be if i didn't have these programs to listen to. so check it out if you can.

but you are already doing what you are supposed to, you are praying and giving it to God and others are praying for you to. Clarity will come and things will be made known to you, prayers to you, RR