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#348981 07/16/02 10:29 PM
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My W knocked my socks off one year for Valentines. It didn't cost all that much money either.

She began by leaving me a Valentine card to find when I woke up for work. There was a picture of her fully dressed inside. (You can already see where this is going!)

She then caught up with me at work during the day and left me another card in my work truck with a few more pictures. Little less clothing this time.

Then she came back around at lunch time and gave me another card, still more pictures, and took me to lunch. Nothing happened there, my job at that time made me pretty grubby and sweaty during the day.

Then when I came home that night, the kids were at my parents for the evening. A candle light dinner was waiting for me in the dining room.

And my last card of the day. VERY revealing!! Didn't go too far, but it was just like the old J.Geils song says, "My angel is the centerfold". She took all of the pix herself.

The rest of the evening blew my mind. A real fantasy come true. Definitely a whole day of foreplay.

The thing that I think I appreciated about it the most is the fact that I know that for her and most women, they are really are pretty shy when it comes to being that revealing with their bodies. And for her to have them developed at the local one hour place and have to face those folks to pick them up. I know how hard that was for her and loved the whole experience even more because of what I know it must have taken for her to do this.

I still have all of those pictures and the memory of the greatest night of my life. [Smile] [Smile] [Smile]

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THANKS for posting this - great idea! I'm taking notes.

And, heh, we even have a digital camera so all I need is time to get the printer by myself, print those suckers out, and then delete the evidence!! (Heaven forbid the kids find anything like that - it'd scar them for life)
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That was really nice, my husband likes spontaneity, but I am not that creative and very shy. Even though we have been married almost 16 years. There are still some things that I am afraid to reveal about myself to him. For fear that he may either laugh at me or I may get some other kind of reaction. But I will put forth great effort. Thanks for this, this would be a really good idea, if I can get the nerve up to do it. [Cool]

#348984 07/21/02 05:02 PM
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mylegsRmines,

I can tell you from a man's point of view. ANYTHING you do to intiate things in the bedroom will be welcomed with open arms. I understand your being shy and I think that anything you do along these lines will make the gesture all that more memorable to him.

Your husband would have to be a real clod to laugh at you for doing anything creative in this area, no matter how small. I don't think that would happen. If you feel that insecure about it or don't know what he might like. Try writing a letter or something like that asking what some of his fantasies might be, letting him know that you are a little shy about even broaching the subject with him. Or if you don't want to do that then I would suggest reading some of the articles online in some of these women's magazines. There's always something creative in there.

If there's something about yourself that you're afraid to reveal about yourself after 16 yrs then I have to tell you. DON'T BE. Especially if it's something that may add spark to the love life. If he has a problem with it then you are right back to where you started. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Trust me, it doesn't take all that much to push your husbands buttons. Sorry, us guys are really pretty simple. I heard a commercial on the radio recently that made me laugh. I don't even remember what the product was, but, it talks about how complicated women are vs. men. It has this woman's voice that comes on and says, "oh, I love it when you kiss me there, oh, and there is good, oh, and I like it there too, oh, and that's a good place. Then the guy's voice comes on and says, "Oh Yeah! That's the place!".

I gotta tell you, it's not all that more complicated than that. Anything you suprise your husband with will be met with absolute delight.

As Nike says, Just Do It!

Good luck and let us know how it turns out.


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