My husband is showing most of the signs of a MLC. Rececently discovered EA that he says is over. I believe him. I love him and have forgiven him. I want him to stay at home. I have done a 180 and this has made him mad. At least I have gotten an emotion response from him. He tries to push my buttons to react and I will not fall into that trap. This makes him angry as well. I am trying LRT and acting "as if" as well. Right now what ever I do is wrong and I understand that is part of the MLC. As long as I do not react to his anger so he can not say I told you you did not change. I have turned completely to God. Thanking the Lord for giving me the strength, focus and direction He has given me. I am asking the Lord the give my husband the strength, direction and focus he has given me. I am asking the Lord to give my husband the strength to open his heart so He can cleanse it of the anger, pain, resentment and hatred that is harboring there and to replace it with peace, love, compassion and understanding. My question is I want to write my husband a letter. I want to ask him to turn to God. I want to ask him to ask God to cleanse his heart and to give him strength, focus and direction. I want to ask him to turn to God and let God's will be done. Is this a good idea? Is it too soon into our recovery? Should I do it at all? Please advise. I am seeing small baby steps in the right direction only to have 3 or 4 giant backward steps. Thank You.

You can send a letter like to your husband if you want. If he he angry, it probably won't make him less angry, unless he is at that point where God has him pinned down.<P>The reason this forum is here is to pray for our husbands. It was begun as a study forum for the book POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE. Quite honestly, those prayers in that book are so powerful and will give you a sense of peace as you pray them. I prayed through the book in Nov-Dec. Yes, hell broke loose in our lives from Jan-May, but I feel God used those prayers, and the ones I & others prayed continuously the 18 months before and my H has completely made a turn around. God also had some work he wanted to do on me, so be prepared to follow God's will.<P>God has a plan. He wants your marriage to succeed.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10