I have been praising God this entire weekend as He has shown me that he is control of my situation. <P>My husband and I were scheduled to appear in court regarding the divorce last Friday. We both arrived early and I suggested we could have breakfast following the proceedings. He agreed. As the judge was not ready, his attorney suggested that we go get some coffee and return in about 30 minutes. It was a very enlightening 30 minutes as I could see God's hands in the process. My husband told me he really like my hair the way I wear it now and I told him he was pretty cute himself (SMILE)!! So we both started laughing. We sat and talked. I told him we have been apart for close to 2 years now and hopefully in that time we have healed all of the hurts and disappointments we experience. We had gotten to the point where if he would hurt me, I would hurt him in return. And in the end, we both were so wounded there was no way we could be together. I apologize for not being the kind of wife he needed and then HE apologize for not being the kind of husband I needed. I was close to tears.<P>He told me he was reading the relationship book from the Dr. that was on Oprah recently and he was taking the survey. It showed him a lot about himself and first you have to work on you, then you can work on the problem. PRAISE GOD! This is a true revelation for him. He said some things have been happening in his life during the last two weeks that has changed his perspective. He wouldn't go into details and I didn't ask. <P>We now have a delay in the divorce proceedings until December. Perhaps God is giving us more time to work on this. I just know He is. I know my husband's attorney give us a strange look when he came to get us as we were so deep into our conversation and I was touching my husband's arm. I told my husband that I have always loved him, but there was a time that I really didn't like him. He said that was true for him too. He also said we should work at being "best friends" again. He said when were got married (almost 29 years ago) I became his best friend as we shared everything together. I told him we can start today if we just leave what happened in the past and not to keeping reaching back and grabbing hold of a bad memory or incident.<P>God is truly working on him ... healing him of his hurts and granting him peace. On Sunday, we met up at his mom's home as my oldest daughter was in town for her class reunion. He greeted me with a kiss and a hug and my daughter could not believe it. My mother-in-law said my husband had gone to church and surprised her by sitting next to her in the pew. My heart leaped with joy as he has not been to church in many years. He suggested that my daughter, grandson, and I should go out to dinner ... we did and had a wonderful time. I cried all the way to the restaurant and my daughter wondered what was wrong. I was just overwhelmed by God's faithfulness to me ... showing me again He has my situation in His hands. Lift up praises!!!<P>This is a first step in the journey ahead and God's grace and mercy will enable "best friends" to find each other and love again. I have named it and I will claim it. Thank you all for your prayers for all standers. God's power and His love will always keep His children's close to His heart. I praise His name.<P>God bless you all and continue to be encouraged.<P>Yours Because of Calvary!<P>Hopeful Heart

Hopeful heart,<BR>All praise to the God of Glory. Thank you for sharing your testimony. It is so wonderful to be part of God's healing presence in each other's lives. I like Phil McGraw's book myself. However my h and I are not in a place yet to work on it together. I am hopeful in the Lord too, that He is sovereign in this too. I was reading from a new book I got and it was about Jeseph. The story shows how God nurtures faith for His purposes. It says the Joseph learned to see through the circumstances to the loving purpose of God. Joseph demonstrated that God's promises and not Joseph circumstances goverened his life. The trials we endure can lead us to a deeper place with God. We can come to see Him as we experience Him working through us. Joseph's story can also be viewed as a wonderful forshadowing of God's plan to rescue the world through the suffering of His Son. I think one of the most wonderful statements in the story that spoke to my heart was the following.: "Did Joseph, after a few months of hard study master the art of 'seeing' things God's way? No. Joseph was a trophy of God's grace, patiently and tenderly molded by the Spirit of Christ through many long and difficult years." It gives me great hope that the greats of the old testament too didn't get it all at once, but like us it is a process of learning to let Him lead and constantly seeking Him with all our hearts.<BR>I just thought of this after I read your post of praise and honor to our Lord. He is great and He will being all things for our good.<BR>Thanks again for sharing with us. We invite you to join us we explore Godly boundaries and Seeking the Lord with all our hearts. These are the two current topics, but of course we are always learning more about being Praying wives. We also have a prayer time on Tuesday nights. Come back tomorrow and someone will have started a thread for prayer requests.<BR>Lord, "<BR>We thank you for the work that You are doing in these two lives. Lord we know that Your mighty hand is working through two hearts that You have joined together. Lord, we have to die to you before You can resurrect us. Thank You, Lord that You do this with Grace and love. Lord, continue to work Your miracle into these two hearts and let this marriage be reconciled according to Your purposes and in Your image. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

Thank you for the wonderful words and kind prayer. I know my husband is working through so much at the moment and I will be patient. Leaning on God is so much easier when you let go of yourself.<P>Again, HW, thank you and I will keep you all in my prayers.<P>Hopeful Heart

Amen to hw's prayer for you! Praises and glory! Thank you, Lord!