I just got an e-mail from my h that said.<BR>Do you want to celebrate our anniversary on friday instead of thurs.?? YES!!! I sent back a non-chalant, yes that would be fine thanks. I am encouraged, I was afraid to even mention it, I did get him an expensive cigar, I was just going to suggest going out to lunch and giving it to him then. I'll let him decide the tone of the evening. thanks for your prayers, God is in this. Just hope I don't get too emotional and try and rush, I could ruin everything. Please pray.

The cigar is a great idea Carole for you know that it would mean something to him. My H like Dilbert, so I found some Dilbert stuff on the web and printed out a couple and framed them for him. Sometimes it is the small stuff that makes a difference. I know you want to be nonchalant here but also it might be a good idea to praise him for having the idea to begin with, filling the admiration thing, a simple thanks for thinking of this, good idea, I appreaciate it.<P>I now you are feeling anxious about it...something to think about...my previous husband, the alcoholic who died in an auto accident 9 years ago this month, fell in love with a girl who was full of life, lots of fun and confident, somewhat stubborn, etc. Then when he married her and through the drinking stuff, she got lost and that is when he found the other woman...after he left me, he would still come around, help out, see our daughter, etc. and in the process, I found myself again and he commented on the change in me. When we remarried after 15 years, I made sure that girl never got lost again. <P>The point is perhaps in this process of you changing, you are becoming more like the girl he fell in love with and married. Do you remember how you would act back then? Think on it some. I will pray that God gives you lots of confidence!

Carole, am praying that your anniversary outing tonight is a good one where the two of you can relax and just enjoy each other as people who have shared a lot.