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I was wondering if everyone who's written a no-contact letter (from the betrayer to the OP) would mind sharing it here on MB.<P>Although my XH supposedly wrote such a letter to the XOW, I never got to read it. I feel that if I'd ever had a chance to read his <I>final</I> good-byes to the XOW, I might have a greater sense of closure and understanding about the entire convoluted affair...<P>If anybody would like to share, I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks! ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>------------------<BR>~~ Elixir ~~<P>
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I'll share with you the letter my H sent the ex-OW:<P>Ex-OW,<BR> Being with you was a mistake. I have been stupid. I realize that you are not worth losing my family for. I was weak and lonely. I'm sorry for my mistakes. I love my wife and son, and want to work things out with my wife. Please do not contact me again as I will not contact you.<P> H<P>Short and to the point, huh.
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How in the world did you get him to send it? Unfortunately, my H doesn't want to be soooooo 'mean'. Like he wasn't (isn't) mean to me? Sorry, lost myself in the anger there.<P>Was it because you just made it clear that your relationship with him would be over, or....how?
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I sent the OM a no contact letter. I had told him many times to not contact me, and he kept on trying to maintain contact. This was the last resort.<P>Wish I could remember what I said..<P>Connor<p>[This message has been edited by Connor (edited February 15, 2000).]
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Hi Elixir! Here's what my H wrote ex-OW....<P><BR>Do not contact me at home or at work from this point forward. What we did, we should have never allowed to happen. I regret it.<P>Move forward with your life. I am happily married. I love my wife and my kids. I will never do anything to jeapordize them again.
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When my H started wanting to work things out, he didn't know I knew about "her". One night he came over and I calmly told him I knew who she was, how long it had been going on, and I wouldn't even consider a reconciliation unless she was out of the picture, period. He came home a few days later, we discussed him telling her in person with me present, which he agreed to do. That didn't work out so I asked him to send her the no contact letter. He knew he had to or he was out the door, and there would be no contact with me, ever. I wasn't hateful, just told H that all of this hurt me too much and I couldn't stand to be hurt any more. I think he knew in his heart that a woman who would cheat on her H (she was married too, divorced her H for mine) with a married man, was NOT a woman with integrity.
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