<BR>It seems this wonderful man I married is really a <B>SLIMBALL</B>.<P>About 4 or 5 years ago H and <B>TOADIE</B><BR>were caught at work by the Janitors in a comprimising postion at their job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>I felt like pucking when I heard this, they were disaplined( I don't care that words are misspelled) and I quess nothing else was said.<P>I can't believe it, I never heard a word!!!!<BR>I'm so sick right now............... uke:<P>I want to go over there and bit#h slap him untill his you know what falls off <P>I don't know who this slime ball is anymore.<BR>That Toad can have him!!<P>That reminds me of a joke,<P>"Do you know what Viagra is made up of?"<P>"30% chemicals and 70% Fix a flat!"<P>Now what do I go to Plan B or Plan D, DIVORCE?<BR>I was told to keep this to myself and use it if he gets snotty over money when the time comes or use it for proof in filing under Adultry.<P>Just this time last evening I was feeling so lonely and missing him!!!!!!!!!!!!! uke again:<P>Sorry I just keep getting more news that leads me to believe that I should just cut my loses and move on, no matter how hard it seems.<P>Whhat is that TOAD doing to the man I was married to for 22 yrs??????????????????<P>I need a bath bomb right now, since the other kind isn't legal.LOL<BR>How about a huge <B>MARGARITA</B>too.<P> <P>------------------<BR>Peg

Oh Peggy,<P>I am so sorry. I have to ask though, did you hear this from a reliable source? I know that I had talked to the ow's husband and he said some stuff about my h that I know for a fact isn't true. He also told his wife (my h's ow) I said things that I know I didn't say. So, I guess what I am saying is don't get too upset unless you know this is fact. By the way, I love how you did the uke thing! That is hysterical! I liked the viagra joke too! I would send it to my husband but I promised myself I wouldn't send him any e-mails now! I know this is hard! It is the worst hurt I have ever felt in my life and I know it is the same for you! I guess that if I were you, I wouldn't rush into making any major decisions. You have too much going on in your head right now! It really is best to think things through before acting on them. I am still learning that lesson! It is a tough one! Just take sometime to think about it all! Take care!<P>Woozy

The uck: thing was an accident, I was just planing on : puck : and it came out uck:.<BR>Your right about cooling down, I'm pretty sure it was reliable but I'm going to ask another friend if she knows anything.<P>I just hate this ride!!!!!!!<P>How are you doing? I heard you decided to pospone the filing?<BR>He took it kind of strange. I guess they just arn't themselves these days are they?<P>Have any of that WINE left? Sure could use some right now!!!!!! <P> <P>------------------<BR>Peg

Peg,<P>I wish I had some of that wine left. I sort of made a vow to myself today that I will never buy another drop of alcohol again, so I'll have to get my friend to do it! LOL!<P>I think it would be a good idea for you to check with another friend. Sometimes, I think people like to say stuff to see if they can make you more upset than you already are. Like we need that. I have gone from loving my husband to hating him to loving him and all over the board and that is in just one minute! LOL! But that is how emotional we are right now! Even though we are the sane ones!<P>Yep, hubby took it strange. I don't know what any of it means. I wish I could describe the look on his face when I told him I wasn't going to file. He just couldn't say anything and that really drives me nuts! I don't know if that is good or bad. Probably bad because he didn't say,"Oh, thank God you still want me! I have been such a fool and I didn't think you would want to stay married to me!" You know, he didn't say that. So, like what was he thinking? He was able to talk to me after that and we got along well. What gets me is when I told him I love him and he told me he loves me too and started crying. I feel like if he didn't care, he would either not say I love you, or he would say I love you and not cry. BUt, no, he says I love you and starts crying. It just came to him. I want to say he still wants me. Just can't do that yet though! Of course if he tells the ow any of this stuff she will find a sneaky way to put a stop to it all. Manipulative B****! Well, that is how I choose to think of her. She manipulated my h into sleeping with her. Yucky skanky bimbo! <P>Anyway, hang in there Peg! Maybe I will buy a bottle of wine again and have another pity party this weekend! Take care!<P>Woozy

BrokenButNotCrushed put this very nicely. I for one am not a religious person but I still thought this was a good.<P>"Don’t set boundaries based on what you know initially. The details cannot come out all at once. Place your trust in God getting you through the experience rather than on your own strength. Handling it in your own strength is saying, “Okay, I can handle x, y and z.” But if you later find out that v and w also happened, you will have built your recovery on sand and be devastated"<BR>Peggy, you will probably find out more things that will hurt you, but it is how you react to them is what will get you in the end. Be angry but don't let it consume who you are.