Ok, I'm in a posting mood this morning so I thought I'd throw this one at y'all. Yesterday I get a call from ow's h asking me if I had gone out the night before. I said "no." He said that his wife and "new boyfriend" saw me out with another man. <P>Then, my H calls (he had the kids this weekend) asking me the same thing. I told him no too. As a matter a fact, I couldn't be out a the accused time as I was on here posting Anyway, I requested my H call this man who says he saw me out. Well, he did with me on the phone and the description did sound like me, but at the same time it didn't. My H seemed quite upset about the whole thing and kept saying I was allowed to do whatever I wanted. But I didn't do anything!! I don't even know the guy that supposedly saw me and the ow has only briefly seen me twice. My H claims that the man has seen pictures of me. Now, I could see lots of pictures of someone but I don't think I could pick them out if I had too.<P>Do you think this is a set up from the ow to get my H angry at me? I think she is really attached to my H as she is always calling him and paging him when he is not home. They will be moving apart at the end of this month. Is this one last effort to hang on to him? My H says he believes me that I wasn't out, but I'm not sure that he does. What should I do?

Ignore them all! Don't give them the satisfaction of worrying about something so silly. You know the truth and right now that is all that matters.

trying2_4give,<P>Thanks for the advice. I'm trying not to let it bother me but easier said than done

Well, if it is a setup from the OW it's likely to backfire on her. If your H got jealous at the prospect of you going out, it might just bring him home. He may re-evaluate his feelings in light of the new realization that you don't need him and only him, and that other men find you attractive.<P>Don't worry over defending yourself, you know you didn't go out. On the other hand, if the OW did do this, think how insecure she must be feeling to have to resort to such action!<P>This too shall pass.

Ignore them.<P>What the heck is the OW & her H doing calling you anyway?<P>Although you didn't do anything wrong, it sure isn't any of their business to be spying on you or involved in your life.<P>Geez...why don't those people get a life!